Neuropsychopharmacology
Volume 28, Number 2, February 2003
Table of Contents
Perspective
201 Efficacy of Repetitive Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (rTMS)
in the Treatment of Affective Disorders
Thomas E Schlaepfer, Markus Kosel & Charles B Nemeroff
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300038
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Preclinical Research
206 A Neurochemically Distinct Dorsal Raphe-Limbic Circuit with a
Potential Role in Affective Disorders
Kathryn G Commons, K Ryan Connolley & Rita J Valentino
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300045
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216 Nicotine Induces Glutamate Release from Thalamocortical Terminals
in Prefrontal Cortex
Evelyn K Lambe, Marina R Picciotto & George K Aghajanian
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300032
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226 Sensitivity to Sensorimotor Gating-Disruptive Effects of
Apomorphine in two Outbred Parental Rat Strains and their
F1 and N2 Progeny
Neal R Swerdlow, Amanda Platten, Faith M Hanlon, Zoe A
Martinez, Morton P Printz & Pamela Auerbach
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300035
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Clinical Research
235 Reduction of Hypothalamic Vasopressinergic Hyperdrive Contributes
to Clinically Relevant Behavioral and Neuroendocrine
Effects of Chronic Paroxetine Treatment in a
Psychopathological Rat Model
Martin E Keck, Tobias Welt, Marianne B Müller, Manfred Uhr,
Frauke Ohl, Alexandra Wigger, Nicola Toschi, Florian
Holsboer & Rainer Landgraf
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300040
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244 Imaging Brain Phospholipase A2 Activation in Awake Rats in
Response to the 5-HT2A/2C Agonist (+-)2,5-Dimethoxy-4-
Iodophenyl-2-Aminopropane (DOI)
Ying Qu, Lisa Chang, Justin Klaff, Andrea Balbo & Stanley
I Rapoport
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300022
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253 Selective 5-HT1A Antagonists WAY 100635 and NAD-299 Attenuate the
Impairment of Passive Avoidance Caused by Scopolamine in
the Rat
Ilga Misane & Sven Ove Ögren
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300024
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265 Induction of Metabolic Hypofunction and Neurochemical Deficits
after Chronic Intermittent Exposure to Phencyclidine:
Differential Modulation by Antipsychotic Drugs
Susan M Cochran, Matthew Kennedy, Clare E McKerchar,
Lucinda J Steward, Judith A Pratt & Brian J Morris
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300031
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276 Inhibition of 5-HT Neurotransmission Increases Clonidine
Protective Effects on Naloxone-induced Conditioned Place
Aversion in Morphine-dependent Rats
Stéphanie Caillé, Luis Stinus, Emilio F Espejo, Philippe De
Deurwaerdère, Umberto Spampinato & George F Koob
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300033
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284 Apomorphine Enhances Conditioned Responses Induced by Aversive
Stimulation of the Inferior Colliculus
Ana Cristina Troncoso, Mario Yukio Osaki, Suely Mason,
Karina G Borelli & Marcus Lira Brandão
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300034
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292 Enhanced Morphine Preference Following Prolonged Abstinence:
Association with Increased Fos Expression in the Extended
Amygdala
Glenda C Harris & Gary Aston-Jones
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300037
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300 Differential Effects of Haloperidol, Risperidone, and Clozapine
Exposure on Cholinergic Markers and Spatial Learning
Performance in Rats
Alvin V Terry Jr, William D Hill, Vinay Parikh, Jennifer L
Waller, Denise R Evans & Sahebarao P Mahadik
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300039
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310 Zaprinast, a Phosphodiesterase 5 Inhibitor, Overcomes Sexual
Dysfunction Produced by Fluoxetine, a Selective Serotonin
Reuptake Inhibitor in Hamsters
Cheryl A Frye & Madeline E Rhodes
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300051
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317 Long-Lasting Changes in Morphine-Induced Locomotor Sensitization
and Tolerance in Long-Evans Mother Rats as a Result of
Periodic Postpartum Separation from the Litter: A Novel
Model of Increased Vulnerability to Drug Abuse?
Mikhail Kalinichev, Keith W Easterling & Stephen G Holtzman
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300068
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329 Attenuation of Cue-Controlled Cocaine-Seeking by a Selective D3
Dopamine Receptor Antagonist SB-277011-A
Patricia Di Ciano, Rachel J Underwood, Jim J Hagan & Barry
J Everitt
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300148
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339 Acute changes in Cerebrospinal Fluid 5-HIAA following Oral
Paroxetine Challenge in Healthy Humans
Linda L Carpenter, George M Anderson, Jason M Siniscalchi,
Phillip B Chappell & Lawrence H Price
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300025
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348 State Markers of Depression in Sleep EEG: Dependency on Drug and
Gender in Patients Treated with Tianeptine or Paroxetine
H Murck, T Nickel, H Künzel, I A Antonijevic, J Schill, A
Zobel, A Steiger, A Sonntag & F Holsboer
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300029
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359 A Self-Administered Questionnaire to Measure Dependence on
Cigarettes: The Cigarette Dependence Scale
Jean-François Etter, Jacques Le Houezec & Thomas V Perneger
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300030
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371 Caffeine Reversal of Ethanol Effects on the Multiple Sleep
Latency Test, Memory, and Psychomotor Performance
Christopher L Drake, Timothy Roehrs, Lauren Turner, Holly M
Scofield & Thomas Roth
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300026
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379 Steroid Synthesis Inhibition with Ketoconazole and its Effect
upon the Regulation of the Hypothalamus/Pituitary/Adrenal
System in Healthy Humans
Michael Deuschle, Olivera Lecei, Günther K Stalla, Rainer
Landgraf, Bettina Hamann, Florian Lederbogen, Manfred Uhr,
Peter Luppa, Athanasios Maras, Michael Colla & Isabella
Heuser
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300044
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384 Treatment of Tourette Syndrome with Delta-9-Tetrahydrocannabinol
(9-THC): No Influence on Neuropsychological Performance
Kirsten R Müller-Vahl, Heidrun Prevedel, Karen Theloe, Hans
Kolbe, Hinderk M Emrich & Udo Schneider
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300047
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389 Saccade and Cognitive Function in Chronic Kava Users
Sheree Cairney, Alan R Clough, Paul Maruff, Alex Collie,
Bart J Currie & Jon Currie
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300052
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397 A BDNF Coding Variant is Associated with the NEO Personality
Inventory Domain Neuroticism, a Risk Factor for Depression
Srijan Sen, Randolph M Nesse, Scott F Stoltenberg, Sheng Li,
Lillian Gleiberman, Aravinda Chakravarti, Alan B Weder &
Margit Burmeister
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300053
_____________________________________________________________________
402 Synergistic Action of 5-HT2A Antagonists and Selective Serotonin
Reuptake Inhibitors in Neuropsychiatric Disorders
Gerard J Marek, Linda L Carpenter, Christopher J McDougle &
Lawrence H Price
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300057
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413 Changes in Human In vivo Serotonin and Dopamine Transporter
Availabilities during Chronic Antidepressant Administration
Akira Kugaya, Nicholas M Seneca, Peter J Snyder, Stephen A
Williams, Robert T Malison, Ronald M Baldwin, John P Seibyl
& Robert B Innis
http://www.nature.com/doifinder/10.1038/sj.npp.1300036
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 1:
"New Years Resolution Results"
by Dale Berry, CP, Results Coach
If you're like most people, the majority of your
New Year's resolutions become New Year's
delusions by the end of February. Less than 30%
of New Years Resolutions ever achieve success,
but year after year, we stick with tradition. On
New Years Eve, many of us make (or consider
making) a resolution to achieve a personal goal.
This is the opportunity for a clean start, you're
once a year opening to take on a new challenge
and achieve something worth while. Want to make a
difference this year? Here are 10 keys to
achieving results with your resolution for the
New Year.
PUT SOME THOUGHT INTO YOUR RESOLUTION
A significant number of people make their
resolutions at the last minute, sometimes a
minute before midnight, in response to someone
asking "what's your New Year's resolution?" An
important fact about resolutions is resolutions
do not need to be declared at the stroke of
midnight, or on New Year's day for that matter.
Take your time; make a realistic resolution, one
that you have considered and you believe can be
accomplished. No need to make it life changing,
profound or of great significance to others. Make
a resolution that has meaning and significance to
you. If you are always in a rush in the morning,
resolve to wake up 15-30 minutes earlier than you
usually do to give yourself more time to prepare
for the day. If your house is always cluttered,
resolve to clean or straighten up one room a week,
or perhaps resolve never to go to bed with dirty
dishes in the sink. If you are feeling isolated
because you live far away from family or friends,
resolve to write a personal letter once a month.
All of these are simple resolutions, not excessive
or taking on too much of a burden, but they are
resolutions that are obtainable and will make a
positive impact on your year. Put some thought
into it, make it a resolution that has some
meaning and a level of purpose in your life.
MAKE IT REALISTIC
Do not make a resolution that is unreasonable or
next too impossible to obtain, you are only
setting yourself up to be discouraged and
disappointed. One of the more popular resolutions
is "I am going to get in shape" or "I am going to
start exercising every day." As yourself, do you
exercise now? What will magically happen on
December 31 that will transform you into a person
to have the will power to exercise every day, or
change your diet or stop smoking overnight? Do not
make an "all or nothing" resolution. Set a goal
that can be achieved in steps or phases, one that
you have a chance of being successful at. If you
have never exercised and want to start, make a
resolution to exercise 15-20 minutes every second
day, something simple, something that you can
achieve. If by March you determine your initial
goal was too easy to achieve, there is nothing in
the resolution rulebook that prevents you from
adjusting your resolution to a higher standard, or
even declaring a revised resolution with a whole
new goal.
SET A FIRM RESOLUTION
Most resolutions fall into one of two categories,
you either want to start doing something new
(exercise, diet, eat better, save money, travel
more) or you want to stop doing something
(smoking, drinking, watching too much TV,
excessive shopping, running up debt). The major
challenge with both types is they focus on the
action of stopping or starting something and they
typically lack exact specifics. Take for example
one of the most popular resolutions, "I want to
lose weight." Not only does this resolution lack
specifics, but it has no positive focus on a true
accomplishment. Some suggest it is better to be
specific as to how much weight you want to lose,
again, the focus is not on the outcome but on the
on the work. The focus of your resolution needs
to be on the outcome. If you weight 180 pounds
and you want to lose 30 pounds, then your
resolution is "I want to weight 150 pounds this
year" Now you have a specific goal, you have a
target, you know what you are working towards and
what you want to achieve. If you want to save
money, how much money do you want in the bank by
the end of the year? Your resolution is I want to
have "X" dollars by the end of the year. If you
want to stop smoking, your resolution is "I will
be a non-smoker by the end of the year." Whatever
your resolution, word it so it is specific and
focused on the outcome and the results you want.
SET A TIMETABLE
What is the difference between a goal and a
dream? A goal is a dream with a deadline. It
makes a huge impact on your ability to obtain a
resolution when you can attach a specific
timetable and deadline to achieve your
resolution. If, for example, you want to save
money, set a goal of how much money you want to
save for the year, divide that amount by 52 weeks
and now you have a new goal of how much you need
to save every week to make your resolution a
success. Whatever your resolution, you need to
acknowledge that, if it is a worthwhile
resolution, it will take time and effort. By
setting a timetable and a deadline, you will be
able to track your progress to achieve the
resolution you desire.
MAKE A PLAN
For many, making a resolution is like diving into
the deep end of a pool and then noticing on the
way down there is no water in the pool. It makes
sense that if you are serious about achieving
resolution results a little pre-planning might be
a worthwhile effort. The second most popular New
Year's resolution is to get in shape and January
is typically when most gyms see the highest
number of new members. Just because you join a
gym does not mean you will be in shape. You need
to do more than join; you need to take a serious
look at your weekly calendar and schedule time to
actually go to the gym. Whatever your resolution,
take time to assess how much time and effort it
will take to ensure success and then schedule the
time and make the effort to make your plan
deliver resolution.
FIND RESOURCES
If you are taking on a new resolution, it stands
to reason that it most likely is something you
have never accomplished before, because if you
had been successful in the past, then there would
be no need to make it a new resolution now. So,
if this is a new challenge, or something that you
have been unable to accomplish in the past, does
it not stand to reason that you may need some
help to ensure your success? Do some research by
checking resources on the Internet, or do it the
old fashion way and go the library. Look in the
paper, the yellow pages; ask a friend or a family
member, the important thing is to explore
resources to educate yourself on techniques and
skills that assist you in achieving your
resolutions.
REMIND YOURSELF EVERY DAY
Your resolution may have been near the top of
your list of things to do on January 1, but after
a few months, it has a tendency to slowly work
its way down the list. In many instances, your
resolution actually falls off the "to-do" list.
One way to combat this challenge is to create a
simple prompt that you will see everyday to
remind you of your resolution. The easiest thing
to do is to write your resolution down on a small
piece of paper and tape it to the mirror in your
bathroom. This way, every morning you will see
the note and remind yourself of your resolution.
For the computer savvy individual, you can set up
your daily or weekly schedule to give you an
auto-reminder of you resolution.
DON'T GIVE UP
Most people start the New Year with lot of
enthusiasm and energy to ensure their resolution
will be a success. Then after a while, the
excitement goes away and not long after you
realize you have gone for a whole 3 weeks without
adhering to your resolution. Perhaps you stopped
going to the gym to work out for a few weeks or
you started smoking again or stopped your diet
because of a very stressful situation at work.
Don't panic, your commitment to your resolution
is not destroyed. Remember, your resolution is
for the entire New Year, which gives you a total
of 52 weeks, a whole 365 days to accomplish your
goal. So what if you stopped your resolution for
a week, or even a month, there is no reason you
cannot start up again where you left off. Why
wait until next December 31 to re-start the same
resolution you made last year? Start today, you
can start a resolution any day you want to.
FIND A RESOLUTION PARTNER
A great way to ensure success is to find a New
Year's Resolution partner. It may be a friend,
someone from work or church or a family member.
Ask around and find someone who is serious about
making their New Year's Resolution as success.
Make an agreement to meet at least once a month,
perhaps for lunch or for coffee, to discuss your
resolution, provide updates and to give each
other support. Exchange e-mail updates on a
weekly basis. Having someone to talk to about
your resolution and hearing about someone else's
resolution is a powerful motivator.
REWARD YOURSELF
Don't forget to reward yourself for achieving
success. You have made a significant commitment
to do something important and meaningful; you
need to be commended for your initiative and must
be rewarded for your effort. Make a decision of
what your reward will be, make it something
personal and special. It does not need to be
luxurious or expensive, it can be something
simple and obtainable like a one-hour massage, or
a weekend stay at local hotel that has a pool.
Pamper yourself; do not be afraid to treat
yourself to a little reward every month for
sticking to your resolve to achieve your
resolution. Use your imagination; make it
something that you would not normally treat
yourself to, because you earned it.
Your New Year's Resolution can be achieved. A
year from now, on December 31, you will have two
things to celebrate. First, you have achieved
your resolution from last year, something the
majority of New Year merrymakers barely remember.
Second, you now know you have what it takes to
accomplish the new resolution you will make for
next year.
Dale Berry, is a professional public speaker and
author of the book RESULTS, There's No Such Word
as Can't. He is a practicing Certified
Prosthetist and Director of Clinical Operations
for nations largest Rehabilitation Corporation.
Dale can be reached in Minneapolis by fax at
(952) 943-9562.
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 2:
"Triumphant Journey:
A Cyberguide To Stop Overeating
And Recover From Eating Disorders"
by Joanna Poppink, M.F.C.C
http://selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/eating/guide/index.html
Part One
Part One This section gives you some
background about Joanna Poppink and
explains why most diet programs
don't work.
Part Two helps you discover if you
are an overeater and explores some
rewards of being free from an eating
disorder.
It describes what powerful emotional
and life challenges must be
confronted as your eating patterns
become appropriate to your health
and well being.
It describes personal qualities in
your Essential Equipment List that
are necessary in your journey to be
free of overeating.
Part Three is designed to help you
stop overeating. By following this
guide you can improve your
relationship with food and yourself.
You can begin to address the source
of your need to overeat and develop
more satisfying and useful ways of
thinking and behaving. Part Three
prepares you for doing the deep work
described in Part Seven.
Part Four provides specific
information about underlying issues
in eating disorders.
It discusses how secrets relate to
overeating, how those secrets can
cause pain in your life today and
how those secrets may have
developed.
Part Five describes and discusses a
childhood incident which helps
clarify how secrets can help create
and maintain eating disorders.
Part Six, by means of 20 questions,
helps you discover if you have
secrets in your life which may
govern your overeating.
Part Seven describes the heart of
your program to be free of your
eating disorder. Here you will find
preparatory exercises and an Action
Plan. These will take you through
the deep work of discovering secrets
that can compel you to overeat. It
shows you how to create and use a
personal support and workbook system
that will guide you through your
personal recovery work.
Part Eight shows you how to use
affirmations and gives you a list of
134 affirmations to choose from in
your personal work.
Part Nine suggests additional
sources of help for people with
eating disorders.
Joanna Poppink, M.F.C.C., licensed
by the State of California in 1980,
is a Marriage, Family, Child
Counselor (License #15563). She has
a private practice in Los Angeles
where she works with adult
individuals and couples. She
specializes in working with people
with eating disorders and with
people who are trying to understand
and help a loved on who has an
eating disorder.
Contact Information:
10573 West Pico Blvd. Suite 20
Los Angeles, CA 90064
(310) 474-4165 phone
(310) 474-7248 fax
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 3:
"The Mitzvah"
by Tom Shafer
Yankel was a young man who lived in Poland many
years ago. As we meet him, he had become a very
bitter man.
He had finished years of apprenticeship as a
tailor, and he was very talented at his trade.
Pants, dresses and coats; he could make them
all. And he had a special talent for using just
enough cloth to make a beautiful piece with
hardly anything left over so his customers got
an excellent price.
But hard times had fallen. The nobles had fought
one of their usual wars and all the peasants and
tradesmen were not only left poor, they were
left hungry. There was no money for anyone to
buy new cloth for Yankel to sew. He found
himself repairing torn pants and darning socks,
when he could get any work at all. And there had
been no work for the past week.
Yankel was especially bitter because of Rivka.
What a beautiful and gentle girl and almost the
age to marry. He father was a well to do
scholar. Yankel had, after much persistence,
almost sealed a deal with him for a betrothal.
But everything had fallen through. There was no
room in Rivka's life for a starving tailor, her
father had said.
Cold and hungry, he walked across a plowed
field. He was going to the woods by the river to
sleep with the other hungry men.
He stubbed his foot. A big rock and another. Two
sore toes. He stifled a curse. Then he stared at
Heavens and shouted, "Why God, why? It's not
enough that I have no business and never will
have a wife. Now you have to break my toes,
too?" He stopped, embarrassed. He had promised
himself he would not pray until the famine
ended.
Furious, he reached down to grab the first rock
and throw it into the air. But, it wasn't a
rock. It was a potato. And the second rock was a
potato too. Not just any potatoes mind you, the
biggest he had ever seen. And they were both
fresh and firm, unusual for this late in the
year.
Puzzled, Yankel quickly stuffed one of the huge
potatoes into each pocket of his coat. He looked
around hurriedly and saw two men, one very small
and one very large, about to enter the field.
The large man seemed to smile at him.
"Oh no, they saw me," he thought. He scurried
toward the woods. Then he looked around and saw
no one. The men must have taken another way. He
crept to the river bank and washed the potato.
He was about ready to cut it up and eat the
first bite when he heard someone behind him. He
winced, caught red handed.
"Hello my friend," the man said, his Polish was
heavily accented with the lilt of some strange
land. "Nice Potato you have there."
"It's mine," said Yankel. "I came by it
honestly."
"I'm sure you did," said the man. "You appear to
be an honest fellow. I have lived many years and
been many places. I can tell such things."
Yankel looked at the man. He was very old. His
dress was peculiar and much too light for a
Polish winter. His skin was a medium brown.
"You are not from here?" asked Yankel.
"No," said the man. I come from far south of
here in Arabia. I worked with a noble's horses.
Until he got killed in the war. Now I have no
work."
"Nor I," said Yankel.
"Oh well," said the man. "Join me for some warm
water? Perhaps we can find some herbs to make a
tea?"
Yankel followed the man around a curve in the
river bank. There was an iron pot simmering away
over a fire. The man gestured Yankel to sit and
threw more wood on the fire. Then he told Yankel
he must take a few moments to say his evening
prayers. He spread out a small rug and bowed on
it, resting on his hands and knees with his
forehead to the ground. The man prayed for
several minutes in a language Yankel did not
understand.
When he was finished, he sat up and rolled up
his rug. He looked at Yankel. "I had a thought
during my prayers," he said. "As you can see, I
am a follower of the Prophet and I was taught
from an early age to always give charity. You
have no need to eat that magnificent potato raw.
Why don't you boil it in my water."
Yankel looked troubled. "Do not worry, my new
friend," the old man said. "I know you are young
and very hungry. I am old and require little
food. I must offer the charity of my humble
abode so I would be honored if you would use my
water. Of course, I don't think I would be
breaking any rules if I drank some of the broth
afterwards. If you don't mind, that is." (The
rumbling of the man's stomach belied his calm
expression.)
Yankel cut the potato into pieces and put them
in the water. He watched them boil. The man
smiled and sat down. Then tears formed in
Yankel's eyes.
"But I must share with you," he said to the man.
"Absolutely not," said the man. "Then it
wouldn't be charity."
"But I am a Jew," Yankel said. "I am commanded
to give charity too. We call that a Mitzvah. It
is our law, too."
"But," said the old man, "If I give you charity
and you give me charity back, then how have I
given charity? Charity must be given without
hope of return."
Yankel was getting exasperated. "Then how am I
do to do a Mitzvah? What about my commandments."
"It would be enough for me to watch you enjoy
your meal" the man said. "And a little broth
would warm me up nicely for the night ahead. You
have only enough for one meal for a strapping
young lad like yourself."
Yankel stirred the pot. Then he began to cry
again. "I must confess," he said. And he pulled
the second potato out of his other pocket. "I
have not been honest with you. I have enough to
share."
"Absolutely not," said the old man. "Charity is
charity. Use my water later for the other
potato."
"But how am I supposed to do a Mitzvah," Yankel
shouted. The old man sat straight and looked
very firm.
Then Yankel smiled. "I had a thought," he said.
"What if the Holy one, Blessed be He, gave me
this second potato because he knew I would meet
you?"
The old man's posture softened. "I wish I had a
Koran to consult on this point of law," he said.
He thought for another moment. "But, then
again... Who am I to argue with the Creator of
such magnificent potatoes?" Yankel cut up the
second potato and they put it in the pot. The he
said to the old man, "You people of the Prophet
sure make it hard to do a Mitzvah."
The old man replied, "But I've always heard you
Jews argue well." Both men laughed.
A little way in the woods, the two men Yankel
had seen before were listening. There was a
smallish man with quick and greedy eyes. A thief
by trade. His companion was a giant of a man but
with the simple face of one who had the mind of
a child. The small man gestured for silence as
he listened. He motioned his companion to stand
with him. He felt the two large carrots in his
pocket. "No need to eat them tonight." he
thought. "Potatoes are waiting." And there was
no longer any need to figure out how to get away
from his companion to wash and eat the carrots.
The small man came out of the woods and called
to Yankel and the Arabian. "Hello my friends,"
He shouted. "Oh, do not worry. My friends, we
ask for nothing more than a few minutes by your
fire. Then we shall be moving on." Craftily he
added, "We have no need to disturb your meal."
He and the quiet giant sat by the fire and
warmed their hands. The crafty one chatted about
the weather, dropping sly hints that he and his
friend had not eaten for three days but hoped to
find some grain the next day. "Don't worry about
us," he said again. "Just a few minutes and we
will be on our way. I wish I had time to enjoy
watching you two eat your soup, but time is
pressing and it is almost dark."
Yankel hesitated. Then he shrugged and said.
"You two may share some of my potato." The old
man added, "And mine."
"Wouldn't hear of it," the sly one said.
"But we must share." Yankel said. "Its commanded
by our religions. For me it is called a
Mitzvah."
"Only in that case," the sly one said. "Far be
it from me to come between a man and his Maker."
All four men watched the soup boil. The quiet
giant took a small packet from his pocket and
leaned to pour it into the soup.
"What is that?" shouted Yankel.
"Salt," said the giant.
"But you can't do that." Yankel said. If you
give me anything in return, you'll ruin my
Mitzvah."
"And mine" said the old man. "We cannot give you
charity if you give in return." (The sly one
suppressed a giggle at such foolishness.)
The giant sat back looking disappointed. "I am
not gifted with wits," he said. "I cannot
understand such things. I will do what you say."
Then he thought intently for a minute. "I heard
a Priest last week say we all had to be like
salt," he said. "He said a little salt makes
everything taste better. I don't understand such
things so much. But that is why I wanted to
share my salt."
"There is nothing wrong with your wits my
friend." the old man said. "That is a very wise
saying."
The sly one said, "I guess this must be a
commandment of his religion." The old man
shrugged and the giant one leaned forward again.
"But what about my Mitzvah?," Yankel complained.
The old man looked at Yankel. "He is a simple
but honest man," he said to Yankel. "My Prophet
teaches kindness to such people."
Yankel relented. "So do mine." Both men smiled
at the giant as he seasoned the soup.
The small man shifted uncomfortably. He had
watched and listened. Memories of a long ignored
Catechism entered his mind as he remembered the
Priest talking about salt. Why had he let that
big oaf drag him into that church?
He stood up and said, "I must go now."
"But not before you eat," Yankel said.
"I do not deserve to share food with you three.
Look, I have been holding out on you." He
dropped the two large carrots on the ground by
the pot and backed up a step. Tears were in his
eyes.
"I meant to eat your food and share nothing. And
steal from you when you slept. I could have
gotten a lot of money for that rug."
Then he looked at his large and gentle
companion. "Stay with them. They will take
better care of you than I."
"But," Yankel said. "We asked for nothing but to
share. Please stay."
The old man nodded his assent. "And keep your
carrots."
"But you must take them. It's the only way I'll
stay," the small man said.
"You'll ruin my Mitzvah." Yankel said.
"I wish I had a Koran to look this up," the old
man said. Then he thought for a moment and
looked at Yankel. "I believe this man is
offering these carrots as a token of his return
to his faith."
Yankel said, "We call that Teshuvah."
"That is a nice way to say it," the old man
said. "And is it not one of your Mitzvahs to
help a man return to his faith?"
"Yes," said Yankel. There was a little pout in
his voice. The he brightened. "That is even a
greater Mitzvah for me," he said.
"Me also," said the old man. He looked at the
small man. "We will accept your gift of carrots.
But only if you eat with us. It is commanded by
my Prophet."
"And all of my prophets," Yankel added.
The man washed the carrots, cut them up and
dropped them into the pot. The giant one peeled
the bark off a small broken limb and washed it.
"I'll add some more salt," he said and he began
to stir the soup.
And so it went for the next hour. The soup
simmered and more men showed up. Each was
offered a meal. Each had a little something for
the pot, a mushroom, some pepper. One man even
had a chicken. All gifts were offered and
arguments flared each time. Each time, Yankel
said, "What about my Mitzvah?," then the gifts
were accepted one by one.
Finally a man came with a lute. He had no food
or spices but offered a gift of song. More
arguments and his gift was accepted too. Soon
the men all listened to beautiful music. Some
sang along when they recognized a tune.
All the men except the simple giant, that is. He
said and sang nothing but simply sat and stirred
the soup. And, as he stirred ever so gently,
something strange occurred. The whole of all the
men's gifts became greater than the sum of all
of the parts. And, when the soup was done, they
all ate their fill, many with seconds.
When all had eaten their fill, the lute player
began to play, livelier now. Many of the men
sang, some of them danced. Yankel and the Arab
and the gentle giant sat by the fire and watched
them by the firelight and the moonlight.
Then Yankel excused himself and walked along the
bank around the bend. Tired, he laid down with
his coat for a blankets and a large clump of
soft grass for a pillow. He listened to the men
and placed his hands on his full belly.
There was an awkward silence, then he haltingly
prayed the Grace After Meals....
Author's Comment
I wrote it in the tradition of the old Polish
Jewish Maggidm or storyteller. To me, A Jew, the
giant stirring the pot and multiplying the food
would be Elijah. Christians of course would see
Jesus. The Moslems have many delightful tales
about visit by angels who appear as men. Often
they are poor and retarded or crippled. And my
Buddhist friend in Mass. immediately recalled
the Tibetan tales about the Boddhistivas who
visit us from time to time.
Or maybe just the large gentle man who stirred
enough love into the stew that something just
had to happen?
I love to share this tale and get reactions from
others. Please let us all know what your
thoughts and feelings are after reading it.
Happy Holidays,
Tom Shafer, MD
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veterans is The Double Rainbow, published by
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 1:
"New Years Resolution Results"
by Dale Berry, CP, Results Coach
If you're like most people, the majority of your
New Year's resolutions become New Year's
delusions by the end of February. Less than 30%
of New Years Resolutions ever achieve success,
but year after year, we stick with tradition. On
New Years Eve, many of us make (or consider
making) a resolution to achieve a personal goal.
This is the opportunity for a clean start, you're
once a year opening to take on a new challenge
and achieve something worth while. Want to make a
difference this year? Here are 10 keys to
achieving results with your resolution for the
New Year.
PUT SOME THOUGHT INTO YOUR RESOLUTION
A significant number of people make their
resolutions at the last minute, sometimes a
minute before midnight, in response to someone
asking "what's your New Year's resolution?" An
important fact about resolutions is resolutions
do not need to be declared at the stroke of
midnight, or on New Year's day for that matter.
Take your time; make a realistic resolution, one
that you have considered and you believe can be
accomplished. No need to make it life changing,
profound or of great significance to others. Make
a resolution that has meaning and significance to
you. If you are always in a rush in the morning,
resolve to wake up 15-30 minutes earlier than you
usually do to give yourself more time to prepare
for the day. If your house is always cluttered,
resolve to clean or straighten up one room a week,
or perhaps resolve never to go to bed with dirty
dishes in the sink. If you are feeling isolated
because you live far away from family or friends,
resolve to write a personal letter once a month.
All of these are simple resolutions, not excessive
or taking on too much of a burden, but they are
resolutions that are obtainable and will make a
positive impact on your year. Put some thought
into it, make it a resolution that has some
meaning and a level of purpose in your life.
MAKE IT REALISTIC
Do not make a resolution that is unreasonable or
next too impossible to obtain, you are only
setting yourself up to be discouraged and
disappointed. One of the more popular resolutions
is "I am going to get in shape" or "I am going to
start exercising every day." As yourself, do you
exercise now? What will magically happen on
December 31 that will transform you into a person
to have the will power to exercise every day, or
change your diet or stop smoking overnight? Do not
make an "all or nothing" resolution. Set a goal
that can be achieved in steps or phases, one that
you have a chance of being successful at. If you
have never exercised and want to start, make a
resolution to exercise 15-20 minutes every second
day, something simple, something that you can
achieve. If by March you determine your initial
goal was too easy to achieve, there is nothing in
the resolution rulebook that prevents you from
adjusting your resolution to a higher standard, or
even declaring a revised resolution with a whole
new goal.
SET A FIRM RESOLUTION
Most resolutions fall into one of two categories,
you either want to start doing something new
(exercise, diet, eat better, save money, travel
more) or you want to stop doing something
(smoking, drinking, watching too much TV,
excessive shopping, running up debt). The major
challenge with both types is they focus on the
action of stopping or starting something and they
typically lack exact specifics. Take for example
one of the most popular resolutions, "I want to
lose weight." Not only does this resolution lack
specifics, but it has no positive focus on a true
accomplishment. Some suggest it is better to be
specific as to how much weight you want to lose,
again, the focus is not on the outcome but on the
on the work. The focus of your resolution needs
to be on the outcome. If you weight 180 pounds
and you want to lose 30 pounds, then your
resolution is "I want to weight 150 pounds this
year" Now you have a specific goal, you have a
target, you know what you are working towards and
what you want to achieve. If you want to save
money, how much money do you want in the bank by
the end of the year? Your resolution is I want to
have "X" dollars by the end of the year. If you
want to stop smoking, your resolution is "I will
be a non-smoker by the end of the year." Whatever
your resolution, word it so it is specific and
focused on the outcome and the results you want.
SET A TIMETABLE
What is the difference between a goal and a
dream? A goal is a dream with a deadline. It
makes a huge impact on your ability to obtain a
resolution when you can attach a specific
timetable and deadline to achieve your
resolution. If, for example, you want to save
money, set a goal of how much money you want to
save for the year, divide that amount by 52 weeks
and now you have a new goal of how much you need
to save every week to make your resolution a
success. Whatever your resolution, you need to
acknowledge that, if it is a worthwhile
resolution, it will take time and effort. By
setting a timetable and a deadline, you will be
able to track your progress to achieve the
resolution you desire.
MAKE A PLAN
For many, making a resolution is like diving into
the deep end of a pool and then noticing on the
way down there is no water in the pool. It makes
sense that if you are serious about achieving
resolution results a little pre-planning might be
a worthwhile effort. The second most popular New
Year's resolution is to get in shape and January
is typically when most gyms see the highest
number of new members. Just because you join a
gym does not mean you will be in shape. You need
to do more than join; you need to take a serious
look at your weekly calendar and schedule time to
actually go to the gym. Whatever your resolution,
take time to assess how much time and effort it
will take to ensure success and then schedule the
time and make the effort to make your plan
deliver resolution.
FIND RESOURCES
If you are taking on a new resolution, it stands
to reason that it most likely is something you
have never accomplished before, because if you
had been successful in the past, then there would
be no need to make it a new resolution now. So,
if this is a new challenge, or something that you
have been unable to accomplish in the past, does
it not stand to reason that you may need some
help to ensure your success? Do some research by
checking resources on the Internet, or do it the
old fashion way and go the library. Look in the
paper, the yellow pages; ask a friend or a family
member, the important thing is to explore
resources to educate yourself on techniques and
skills that assist you in achieving your
resolutions.
REMIND YOURSELF EVERY DAY
Your resolution may have been near the top of
your list of things to do on January 1, but after
a few months, it has a tendency to slowly work
its way down the list. In many instances, your
resolution actually falls off the "to-do" list.
One way to combat this challenge is to create a
simple prompt that you will see everyday to
remind you of your resolution. The easiest thing
to do is to write your resolution down on a small
piece of paper and tape it to the mirror in your
bathroom. This way, every morning you will see
the note and remind yourself of your resolution.
For the computer savvy individual, you can set up
your daily or weekly schedule to give you an
auto-reminder of you resolution.
DON'T GIVE UP
Most people start the New Year with lot of
enthusiasm and energy to ensure their resolution
will be a success. Then after a while, the
excitement goes away and not long after you
realize you have gone for a whole 3 weeks without
adhering to your resolution. Perhaps you stopped
going to the gym to work out for a few weeks or
you started smoking again or stopped your diet
because of a very stressful situation at work.
Don't panic, your commitment to your resolution
is not destroyed. Remember, your resolution is
for the entire New Year, which gives you a total
of 52 weeks, a whole 365 days to accomplish your
goal. So what if you stopped your resolution for
a week, or even a month, there is no reason you
cannot start up again where you left off. Why
wait until next December 31 to re-start the same
resolution you made last year? Start today, you
can start a resolution any day you want to.
FIND A RESOLUTION PARTNER
A great way to ensure success is to find a New
Year's Resolution partner. It may be a friend,
someone from work or church or a family member.
Ask around and find someone who is serious about
making their New Year's Resolution as success.
Make an agreement to meet at least once a month,
perhaps for lunch or for coffee, to discuss your
resolution, provide updates and to give each
other support. Exchange e-mail updates on a
weekly basis. Having someone to talk to about
your resolution and hearing about someone else's
resolution is a powerful motivator.
REWARD YOURSELF
Don't forget to reward yourself for achieving
success. You have made a significant commitment
to do something important and meaningful; you
need to be commended for your initiative and must
be rewarded for your effort. Make a decision of
what your reward will be, make it something
personal and special. It does not need to be
luxurious or expensive, it can be something
simple and obtainable like a one-hour massage, or
a weekend stay at local hotel that has a pool.
Pamper yourself; do not be afraid to treat
yourself to a little reward every month for
sticking to your resolve to achieve your
resolution. Use your imagination; make it
something that you would not normally treat
yourself to, because you earned it.
Your New Year's Resolution can be achieved. A
year from now, on December 31, you will have two
things to celebrate. First, you have achieved
your resolution from last year, something the
majority of New Year merrymakers barely remember.
Second, you now know you have what it takes to
accomplish the new resolution you will make for
next year.
Dale Berry, is a professional public speaker and
author of the book RESULTS, There's No Such Word
as Can't. He is a practicing Certified
Prosthetist and Director of Clinical Operations
for nations largest Rehabilitation Corporation.
Dale can be reached in Minneapolis by fax at
(952) 943-9562.
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 2:
"Triumphant Journey:
A Cyberguide To Stop Overeating
And Recover From Eating Disorders"
by Joanna Poppink, M.F.C.C
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Part One
Part One This section gives you some
background about Joanna Poppink and
explains why most diet programs
don't work.
Part Two helps you discover if you
are an overeater and explores some
rewards of being free from an eating
disorder.
It describes what powerful emotional
and life challenges must be
confronted as your eating patterns
become appropriate to your health
and well being.
It describes personal qualities in
your Essential Equipment List that
are necessary in your journey to be
free of overeating.
Part Three is designed to help you
stop overeating. By following this
guide you can improve your
relationship with food and yourself.
You can begin to address the source
of your need to overeat and develop
more satisfying and useful ways of
thinking and behaving. Part Three
prepares you for doing the deep work
described in Part Seven.
Part Four provides specific
information about underlying issues
in eating disorders.
It discusses how secrets relate to
overeating, how those secrets can
cause pain in your life today and
how those secrets may have
developed.
Part Five describes and discusses a
childhood incident which helps
clarify how secrets can help create
and maintain eating disorders.
Part Six, by means of 20 questions,
helps you discover if you have
secrets in your life which may
govern your overeating.
Part Seven describes the heart of
your program to be free of your
eating disorder. Here you will find
preparatory exercises and an Action
Plan. These will take you through
the deep work of discovering secrets
that can compel you to overeat. It
shows you how to create and use a
personal support and workbook system
that will guide you through your
personal recovery work.
Part Eight shows you how to use
affirmations and gives you a list of
134 affirmations to choose from in
your personal work.
Part Nine suggests additional
sources of help for people with
eating disorders.
Joanna Poppink, M.F.C.C., licensed
by the State of California in 1980,
is a Marriage, Family, Child
Counselor (License #15563). She has
a private practice in Los Angeles
where she works with adult
individuals and couples. She
specializes in working with people
with eating disorders and with
people who are trying to understand
and help a loved on who has an
eating disorder.
Contact Information:
10573 West Pico Blvd. Suite 20
Los Angeles, CA 90064
(310) 474-4165 phone
(310) 474-7248 fax
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 3:
"The Mitzvah"
by Tom Shafer
Yankel was a young man who lived in Poland many
years ago. As we meet him, he had become a very
bitter man.
He had finished years of apprenticeship as a
tailor, and he was very talented at his trade.
Pants, dresses and coats; he could make them
all. And he had a special talent for using just
enough cloth to make a beautiful piece with
hardly anything left over so his customers got
an excellent price.
But hard times had fallen. The nobles had fought
one of their usual wars and all the peasants and
tradesmen were not only left poor, they were
left hungry. There was no money for anyone to
buy new cloth for Yankel to sew. He found
himself repairing torn pants and darning socks,
when he could get any work at all. And there had
been no work for the past week.
Yankel was especially bitter because of Rivka.
What a beautiful and gentle girl and almost the
age to marry. He father was a well to do
scholar. Yankel had, after much persistence,
almost sealed a deal with him for a betrothal.
But everything had fallen through. There was no
room in Rivka's life for a starving tailor, her
father had said.
Cold and hungry, he walked across a plowed
field. He was going to the woods by the river to
sleep with the other hungry men.
He stubbed his foot. A big rock and another. Two
sore toes. He stifled a curse. Then he stared at
Heavens and shouted, "Why God, why? It's not
enough that I have no business and never will
have a wife. Now you have to break my toes,
too?" He stopped, embarrassed. He had promised
himself he would not pray until the famine
ended.
Furious, he reached down to grab the first rock
and throw it into the air. But, it wasn't a
rock. It was a potato. And the second rock was a
potato too. Not just any potatoes mind you, the
biggest he had ever seen. And they were both
fresh and firm, unusual for this late in the
year.
Puzzled, Yankel quickly stuffed one of the huge
potatoes into each pocket of his coat. He looked
around hurriedly and saw two men, one very small
and one very large, about to enter the field.
The large man seemed to smile at him.
"Oh no, they saw me," he thought. He scurried
toward the woods. Then he looked around and saw
no one. The men must have taken another way. He
crept to the river bank and washed the potato.
He was about ready to cut it up and eat the
first bite when he heard someone behind him. He
winced, caught red handed.
"Hello my friend," the man said, his Polish was
heavily accented with the lilt of some strange
land. "Nice Potato you have there."
"It's mine," said Yankel. "I came by it
honestly."
"I'm sure you did," said the man. "You appear to
be an honest fellow. I have lived many years and
been many places. I can tell such things."
Yankel looked at the man. He was very old. His
dress was peculiar and much too light for a
Polish winter. His skin was a medium brown.
"You are not from here?" asked Yankel.
"No," said the man. I come from far south of
here in Arabia. I worked with a noble's horses.
Until he got killed in the war. Now I have no
work."
"Nor I," said Yankel.
"Oh well," said the man. "Join me for some warm
water? Perhaps we can find some herbs to make a
tea?"
Yankel followed the man around a curve in the
river bank. There was an iron pot simmering away
over a fire. The man gestured Yankel to sit and
threw more wood on the fire. Then he told Yankel
he must take a few moments to say his evening
prayers. He spread out a small rug and bowed on
it, resting on his hands and knees with his
forehead to the ground. The man prayed for
several minutes in a language Yankel did not
understand.
When he was finished, he sat up and rolled up
his rug. He looked at Yankel. "I had a thought
during my prayers," he said. "As you can see, I
am a follower of the Prophet and I was taught
from an early age to always give charity. You
have no need to eat that magnificent potato raw.
Why don't you boil it in my water."
Yankel looked troubled. "Do not worry, my new
friend," the old man said. "I know you are young
and very hungry. I am old and require little
food. I must offer the charity of my humble
abode so I would be honored if you would use my
water. Of course, I don't think I would be
breaking any rules if I drank some of the broth
afterwards. If you don't mind, that is." (The
rumbling of the man's stomach belied his calm
expression.)
Yankel cut the potato into pieces and put them
in the water. He watched them boil. The man
smiled and sat down. Then tears formed in
Yankel's eyes.
"But I must share with you," he said to the man.
"Absolutely not," said the man. "Then it
wouldn't be charity."
"But I am a Jew," Yankel said. "I am commanded
to give charity too. We call that a Mitzvah. It
is our law, too."
"But," said the old man, "If I give you charity
and you give me charity back, then how have I
given charity? Charity must be given without
hope of return."
Yankel was getting exasperated. "Then how am I
do to do a Mitzvah? What about my commandments."
"It would be enough for me to watch you enjoy
your meal" the man said. "And a little broth
would warm me up nicely for the night ahead. You
have only enough for one meal for a strapping
young lad like yourself."
Yankel stirred the pot. Then he began to cry
again. "I must confess," he said. And he pulled
the second potato out of his other pocket. "I
have not been honest with you. I have enough to
share."
"Absolutely not," said the old man. "Charity is
charity. Use my water later for the other
potato."
"But how am I supposed to do a Mitzvah," Yankel
shouted. The old man sat straight and looked
very firm.
Then Yankel smiled. "I had a thought," he said.
"What if the Holy one, Blessed be He, gave me
this second potato because he knew I would meet
you?"
The old man's posture softened. "I wish I had a
Koran to consult on this point of law," he said.
He thought for another moment. "But, then
again... Who am I to argue with the Creator of
such magnificent potatoes?" Yankel cut up the
second potato and they put it in the pot. The he
said to the old man, "You people of the Prophet
sure make it hard to do a Mitzvah."
The old man replied, "But I've always heard you
Jews argue well." Both men laughed.
A little way in the woods, the two men Yankel
had seen before were listening. There was a
smallish man with quick and greedy eyes. A thief
by trade. His companion was a giant of a man but
with the simple face of one who had the mind of
a child. The small man gestured for silence as
he listened. He motioned his companion to stand
with him. He felt the two large carrots in his
pocket. "No need to eat them tonight." he
thought. "Potatoes are waiting." And there was
no longer any need to figure out how to get away
from his companion to wash and eat the carrots.
The small man came out of the woods and called
to Yankel and the Arabian. "Hello my friends,"
He shouted. "Oh, do not worry. My friends, we
ask for nothing more than a few minutes by your
fire. Then we shall be moving on." Craftily he
added, "We have no need to disturb your meal."
He and the quiet giant sat by the fire and
warmed their hands. The crafty one chatted about
the weather, dropping sly hints that he and his
friend had not eaten for three days but hoped to
find some grain the next day. "Don't worry about
us," he said again. "Just a few minutes and we
will be on our way. I wish I had time to enjoy
watching you two eat your soup, but time is
pressing and it is almost dark."
Yankel hesitated. Then he shrugged and said.
"You two may share some of my potato." The old
man added, "And mine."
"Wouldn't hear of it," the sly one said.
"But we must share." Yankel said. "Its commanded
by our religions. For me it is called a
Mitzvah."
"Only in that case," the sly one said. "Far be
it from me to come between a man and his Maker."
All four men watched the soup boil. The quiet
giant took a small packet from his pocket and
leaned to pour it into the soup.
"What is that?" shouted Yankel.
"Salt," said the giant.
"But you can't do that." Yankel said. If you
give me anything in return, you'll ruin my
Mitzvah."
"And mine" said the old man. "We cannot give you
charity if you give in return." (The sly one
suppressed a giggle at such foolishness.)
The giant sat back looking disappointed. "I am
not gifted with wits," he said. "I cannot
understand such things. I will do what you say."
Then he thought intently for a minute. "I heard
a Priest last week say we all had to be like
salt," he said. "He said a little salt makes
everything taste better. I don't understand such
things so much. But that is why I wanted to
share my salt."
"There is nothing wrong with your wits my
friend." the old man said. "That is a very wise
saying."
The sly one said, "I guess this must be a
commandment of his religion." The old man
shrugged and the giant one leaned forward again.
"But what about my Mitzvah?," Yankel complained.
The old man looked at Yankel. "He is a simple
but honest man," he said to Yankel. "My Prophet
teaches kindness to such people."
Yankel relented. "So do mine." Both men smiled
at the giant as he seasoned the soup.
The small man shifted uncomfortably. He had
watched and listened. Memories of a long ignored
Catechism entered his mind as he remembered the
Priest talking about salt. Why had he let that
big oaf drag him into that church?
He stood up and said, "I must go now."
"But not before you eat," Yankel said.
"I do not deserve to share food with you three.
Look, I have been holding out on you." He
dropped the two large carrots on the ground by
the pot and backed up a step. Tears were in his
eyes.
"I meant to eat your food and share nothing. And
steal from you when you slept. I could have
gotten a lot of money for that rug."
Then he looked at his large and gentle
companion. "Stay with them. They will take
better care of you than I."
"But," Yankel said. "We asked for nothing but to
share. Please stay."
The old man nodded his assent. "And keep your
carrots."
"But you must take them. It's the only way I'll
stay," the small man said.
"You'll ruin my Mitzvah." Yankel said.
"I wish I had a Koran to look this up," the old
man said. Then he thought for a moment and
looked at Yankel. "I believe this man is
offering these carrots as a token of his return
to his faith."
Yankel said, "We call that Teshuvah."
"That is a nice way to say it," the old man
said. "And is it not one of your Mitzvahs to
help a man return to his faith?"
"Yes," said Yankel. There was a little pout in
his voice. The he brightened. "That is even a
greater Mitzvah for me," he said.
"Me also," said the old man. He looked at the
small man. "We will accept your gift of carrots.
But only if you eat with us. It is commanded by
my Prophet."
"And all of my prophets," Yankel added.
The man washed the carrots, cut them up and
dropped them into the pot. The giant one peeled
the bark off a small broken limb and washed it.
"I'll add some more salt," he said and he began
to stir the soup.
And so it went for the next hour. The soup
simmered and more men showed up. Each was
offered a meal. Each had a little something for
the pot, a mushroom, some pepper. One man even
had a chicken. All gifts were offered and
arguments flared each time. Each time, Yankel
said, "What about my Mitzvah?," then the gifts
were accepted one by one.
Finally a man came with a lute. He had no food
or spices but offered a gift of song. More
arguments and his gift was accepted too. Soon
the men all listened to beautiful music. Some
sang along when they recognized a tune.
All the men except the simple giant, that is. He
said and sang nothing but simply sat and stirred
the soup. And, as he stirred ever so gently,
something strange occurred. The whole of all the
men's gifts became greater than the sum of all
of the parts. And, when the soup was done, they
all ate their fill, many with seconds.
When all had eaten their fill, the lute player
began to play, livelier now. Many of the men
sang, some of them danced. Yankel and the Arab
and the gentle giant sat by the fire and watched
them by the firelight and the moonlight.
Then Yankel excused himself and walked along the
bank around the bend. Tired, he laid down with
his coat for a blankets and a large clump of
soft grass for a pillow. He listened to the men
and placed his hands on his full belly.
There was an awkward silence, then he haltingly
prayed the Grace After Meals....
Author's Comment
I wrote it in the tradition of the old Polish
Jewish Maggidm or storyteller. To me, A Jew, the
giant stirring the pot and multiplying the food
would be Elijah. Christians of course would see
Jesus. The Moslems have many delightful tales
about visit by angels who appear as men. Often
they are poor and retarded or crippled. And my
Buddhist friend in Mass. immediately recalled
the Tibetan tales about the Boddhistivas who
visit us from time to time.
Or maybe just the large gentle man who stirred
enough love into the stew that something just
had to happen?
I love to share this tale and get reactions from
others. Please let us all know what your
thoughts and feelings are after reading it.
Happy Holidays,
Tom Shafer, MD
Thomas G. Shafer, MD, received his medical
degree from the University of Virginia and did
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Penn State University.=20
His novel about his clinical work with Vietnam
veterans is The Double Rainbow, published by
Picasso Publications of Ontario. His address is:
213 Creekside Drive, Florence, AL 35630.
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21 febbraio 2003
Venti di guerra...
Mentre sale la tensione fra l'America, i suoi alleati e l'Iraq, e rimane alta quella fra gli Stati Uniti e la Corea del Nord, i politici e i diplomatici dovrebbero tener conto del fatto che gli esseri umani, pur disponendo di tecnologia nucleare, possiedono ancora un cervello risalente all'età della pietra. Si tratta di una combinazione spesso letale, come conferma una ricerca dell'antropologo Paul Roscoe dell'Università del Maine, che ha osservato i preparativi e i meccanismi delle guerre tribali in Nuova Guinea.
Roscoe ha studiato la vendetta come motivazione per la guerra fra le tribù della Nuova Guinea e conclude che l'uccisione dei nemici per vendicare la morte di un parente - una caratteristica soltanto degli esseri umani, fra tutte le specie animali - non è probabilmente un utile adattamento evoluzionario. Facile immaginare il perché: la vendetta provoca spesso altre uccisioni anziché fungere da deterrente.
"Sono convinto - ha spiegato Roscoe al convegno annuale dell'American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS) di Denver - che la vendetta non è probabilmente una caratteristica adattativa perché, in fin dei conti, non porta a niente di buono. Dal punto di vista dell'evoluzione, un comportamento che può causare la propria morte e quella di altri membri della tribù non conviene affatto".
In un certo senso, conclude l'antropologo, intraprendendo le guerre a scopo di vendetta gli esseri umani si sono allontanati dal sentiero dell'evoluzione. Le conclusioni valgono ovviamente anche su scala più ampia, come nel caso di una guerra termonucleare che potrebbe spazzare via l'intera specie.
[LeScienze]
Mentre sale la tensione fra l'America, i suoi alleati e l'Iraq, e rimane alta quella fra gli Stati Uniti e la Corea del Nord, i politici e i diplomatici dovrebbero tener conto del fatto che gli esseri umani, pur disponendo di tecnologia nucleare, possiedono ancora un cervello risalente all'età della pietra. Si tratta di una combinazione spesso letale, come conferma una ricerca dell'antropologo Paul Roscoe dell'Università del Maine, che ha osservato i preparativi e i meccanismi delle guerre tribali in Nuova Guinea.
Roscoe ha studiato la vendetta come motivazione per la guerra fra le tribù della Nuova Guinea e conclude che l'uccisione dei nemici per vendicare la morte di un parente - una caratteristica soltanto degli esseri umani, fra tutte le specie animali - non è probabilmente un utile adattamento evoluzionario. Facile immaginare il perché: la vendetta provoca spesso altre uccisioni anziché fungere da deterrente.
"Sono convinto - ha spiegato Roscoe al convegno annuale dell'American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS) di Denver - che la vendetta non è probabilmente una caratteristica adattativa perché, in fin dei conti, non porta a niente di buono. Dal punto di vista dell'evoluzione, un comportamento che può causare la propria morte e quella di altri membri della tribù non conviene affatto".
In un certo senso, conclude l'antropologo, intraprendendo le guerre a scopo di vendetta gli esseri umani si sono allontanati dal sentiero dell'evoluzione. Le conclusioni valgono ovviamente anche su scala più ampia, come nel caso di una guerra termonucleare che potrebbe spazzare via l'intera specie.
[LeScienze]
[CognitiList]
Feromoni e dopamina
Se chiedete a uno specialista di biochimica ormonale del cervello quali sono principi del piacere, il primo che gli verrà in mente sarà la dopamina. È prodotta in grandi quantità dal nucleus accumbens - una parte del cervello molto antica, nella prospettiva dell'evoluzione, e condivisa da tutti i mammiferi - che la diffonde in un battibaleno per incitare l'organismo alle attività che ne garantiscono la sopravvivenza. Semplificando, la dopamina spinge alla ricerca di un riparo, del cibo, o del sesso; la ricerca viene poi premiata con una "ricompensa", la quale consiste in sensazioni gratificanti. Sempre semplificando, il nucleus accumbens la produce anche quando ci aspettiamo o pregustiamo un piacere, per cui ci viene l'acquolina in bocca all'idea di un buon pranzo, usciamo di casa per andare al cinema anche se fuori fa freddo ed è buio o lavoriamo come pazzi per ottenere un riconoscimento...
La dopamina è così legata alla sopravvivenza che interferire con la sua diffusione - con i ricettori dei neuroni ai quali arriva - può essere mortale. Le droghe che ne danneggiano i ricettori e quindi ne modificano gli effetti, come l'eroina, rendono trascurabile ogni altra ricompensa, ogni attività che non porti a un'altra dose. E farmaci per curare le tossicodipendenze non ce ne sono perché non si conosce abbastanza il circuito da sapere come ripararne i guasti.
Poi ci sono i feromoni, gli ormoni volatili studiati a fondo negli insetti.
Innescano cambiamenti fisiologici per predisporre maschi e femmine alla riproduzione. Si credeva che i primati, umani in particolare, ne avessero perso la percezione insieme all'organo vomero-nasale. Ma quest'ultimo è stato scoperto di recente negli umani (riscoperto, in realtà) e collegato a neuroni che portano dritto nel cervello antico, senza deviazioni nelle aree inibitorie della corteccia cerebrale dove hanno sede facoltà come il controllo volontario dei comportamenti.
Siccome i feromoni sono inodori (almeno per noi, d'altronde è difficile farsi dire da una zanzara se per lei è diverso), soltanto dopo esperimenti complicati si è capito che influenzano la nostra scelta del partner. In agricoltura si usano già per lottare contro gli insetti molesti, nei profumi non ancora - anche se si sospetta una marca francese - solo perché gli umani sono più schizzinosi degli insetti. Per noi, oltre alla combinazione dei feromoni giusti, ci vuole anche una compatibilità dei sistemi immunitari, per esempio, o quella ci respinge invece di attrarci. Però potrebbe esserci un super-feromone. Nel 2001 Annette Shadiak e i suoi colleghi dell'università Concordia, a Montreal, hanno spruzzato attorno a decine di ratti una molecola sintetica, il PT-141 molto simile a un feromone noto che si lega ai ricettori per la melanocortina. Il risultato è stato, come previsto, che le femmine sollecitavano i maschi sette volte più di quelle del gruppo di controllo, e i maschi rispondevano entusiasti con prestazioni pari alla domanda. Il risultato imprevisto è stato che l'effetto era visibile anche sotto il camice di alcuni ricercatori...
Gli scettici negano che uno stimolo dalle componenti così individuali come il desiderio sessuale possa essere eccitato da un'unica molecola. Altri sono sicuri che un'azienda o Annette Shadiak e i suoi stessi colleghi abbiano chiesto il brevetto e continuino sui primati, umani compresi, ricerche protette dal segreto industriale. Prevedono addirittura la messa in vendita tra poco del primo principio attivo nei mammiferi dei due sessi. Dubitiamo che si possa interferire impunemente con la melanocortina, regolatrice dell'appetito in senso non sessuale: se non è sufficiente, o sostituita nei ricettori da un'altra molecola, contribuisce alla bulimia e all'obesità. E più in generale con il cervello. Inoltre, una domanda rimane senza risposta: il PT-141 sarà attivo anche nelle zanzare? [SYLVIE COYAUD, Golem
Feromoni e dopamina
Se chiedete a uno specialista di biochimica ormonale del cervello quali sono principi del piacere, il primo che gli verrà in mente sarà la dopamina. È prodotta in grandi quantità dal nucleus accumbens - una parte del cervello molto antica, nella prospettiva dell'evoluzione, e condivisa da tutti i mammiferi - che la diffonde in un battibaleno per incitare l'organismo alle attività che ne garantiscono la sopravvivenza. Semplificando, la dopamina spinge alla ricerca di un riparo, del cibo, o del sesso; la ricerca viene poi premiata con una "ricompensa", la quale consiste in sensazioni gratificanti. Sempre semplificando, il nucleus accumbens la produce anche quando ci aspettiamo o pregustiamo un piacere, per cui ci viene l'acquolina in bocca all'idea di un buon pranzo, usciamo di casa per andare al cinema anche se fuori fa freddo ed è buio o lavoriamo come pazzi per ottenere un riconoscimento...
La dopamina è così legata alla sopravvivenza che interferire con la sua diffusione - con i ricettori dei neuroni ai quali arriva - può essere mortale. Le droghe che ne danneggiano i ricettori e quindi ne modificano gli effetti, come l'eroina, rendono trascurabile ogni altra ricompensa, ogni attività che non porti a un'altra dose. E farmaci per curare le tossicodipendenze non ce ne sono perché non si conosce abbastanza il circuito da sapere come ripararne i guasti.
Poi ci sono i feromoni, gli ormoni volatili studiati a fondo negli insetti.
Innescano cambiamenti fisiologici per predisporre maschi e femmine alla riproduzione. Si credeva che i primati, umani in particolare, ne avessero perso la percezione insieme all'organo vomero-nasale. Ma quest'ultimo è stato scoperto di recente negli umani (riscoperto, in realtà) e collegato a neuroni che portano dritto nel cervello antico, senza deviazioni nelle aree inibitorie della corteccia cerebrale dove hanno sede facoltà come il controllo volontario dei comportamenti.
Siccome i feromoni sono inodori (almeno per noi, d'altronde è difficile farsi dire da una zanzara se per lei è diverso), soltanto dopo esperimenti complicati si è capito che influenzano la nostra scelta del partner. In agricoltura si usano già per lottare contro gli insetti molesti, nei profumi non ancora - anche se si sospetta una marca francese - solo perché gli umani sono più schizzinosi degli insetti. Per noi, oltre alla combinazione dei feromoni giusti, ci vuole anche una compatibilità dei sistemi immunitari, per esempio, o quella ci respinge invece di attrarci. Però potrebbe esserci un super-feromone. Nel 2001 Annette Shadiak e i suoi colleghi dell'università Concordia, a Montreal, hanno spruzzato attorno a decine di ratti una molecola sintetica, il PT-141 molto simile a un feromone noto che si lega ai ricettori per la melanocortina. Il risultato è stato, come previsto, che le femmine sollecitavano i maschi sette volte più di quelle del gruppo di controllo, e i maschi rispondevano entusiasti con prestazioni pari alla domanda. Il risultato imprevisto è stato che l'effetto era visibile anche sotto il camice di alcuni ricercatori...
Gli scettici negano che uno stimolo dalle componenti così individuali come il desiderio sessuale possa essere eccitato da un'unica molecola. Altri sono sicuri che un'azienda o Annette Shadiak e i suoi stessi colleghi abbiano chiesto il brevetto e continuino sui primati, umani compresi, ricerche protette dal segreto industriale. Prevedono addirittura la messa in vendita tra poco del primo principio attivo nei mammiferi dei due sessi. Dubitiamo che si possa interferire impunemente con la melanocortina, regolatrice dell'appetito in senso non sessuale: se non è sufficiente, o sostituita nei ricettori da un'altra molecola, contribuisce alla bulimia e all'obesità. E più in generale con il cervello. Inoltre, una domanda rimane senza risposta: il PT-141 sarà attivo anche nelle zanzare? [SYLVIE COYAUD, Golem
13 febbraio 2003
TESTO UNICO
DELLA TARIFFA PROFESSIONALE DEGLI PSICOLOGI
Approvato dal Consiglio Nazionale Ordine degli Psicologi in data 2 febbraio 2002
Art. 1
Per le prestazioni professionali, oltre al rimborso delle spese giustificate, sono dovuti allo psicologo iscritto alla sezione A dell’Albo, come stabilito dal D.P.R. 328/01, gli onorari indicati nell'allegata tabella.
Art. 2
Gli onorari minimi e massimi per le prestazioni professionali sono inderogabili.
Gli onorari minimi e massimi sono da intendersi annualmente adeguati sulla variazione del canone ISTAT minimo applicabile.
Nelle convenzioni con soggetti pubblici e privati, che hanno ad oggetto prestazioni professionali da rendere a beneficio di intere categorie di soggetti, il minimo può essere diminuito entro il 25%.
Art. 3
Per la determinazione dell'onorario fra il massimo e il minimo stabilito, si può avere riguardo a:
la complessità della prestazione richiesta;
l'appartenenza del cliente a categorie a beneficio delle quali sono state stipulate convenzioni;
l’urgenza della prestazione;
la situazione socio - economica del cliente.
Lo psicologo può ridurre l'onorario per le prestazioni non effettuate a causa del mancato rispetto dell'appuntamento da parte del cliente, ed eventualmente rinunciarvi se lo ritiene opportuno.
Art. 4
Gli onorari, a seconda delle modalità inerenti alla loro determinazione, sono distinti nei seguenti due tipi:
onorari a percentuale, in ragione del valore dell'intervento;
onorari a vacazione, in ragione del tempo impiegato.
Per la determinazione del valore dell'intervento, va tenuto conto degli interessi sostanziali sui quali incide la prestazione professionale.
Nella determinazione dell'onorario deve aversi particolare riguardo alla competenza specifica dello psicologo.
Quando gli onorari non possono essere determinati in virtù di una specifica voce della tabella, si fa riferimento alle disposizioni contenute nelle presenti norme e nella tabella allegata che regolano casi simili o materie analoghe.
Art. 5
Gli onorari dovuti allo psicologo per le prestazioni professionali non ricomprese nell’allegata tabella sono normalmente valutati a percentuale.
In ogni caso, gli onorari devono essere valutati in ragione del tempo e computati a vacazione in quelle prestazioni professionali nelle quali il tempo concorrere come elemento precipuo di valutazione.
Gli onorari a vacazione sono stabiliti per lo psicologo in ragione di 60 euro per ogni ora o frazione di ora.
Salvo casi di effettiva maggiore prestazione professionale, non si possono calcolare più di otto ore sulle ventiquattro.
Per le prestazioni rese in condizioni di particolare disagio, detti onorari possono essere aumentati fino al 40%.
Art. 6
Allo psicologo che per l'esecuzione dell'incarico ricevuto debba trasferirsi fuori studio sono dovute le spese di viaggio rimborsate nel loro ammontare maggiorato del 15% a titolo di rimborso delle spese accessorie; le spese di soggiorno, pernottamento e vitto in base alle tariffe di albergo di prima categoria con l'aumento del 10% a titolo di rimborso spese accessorie, nonché gli onorari relativi alle prestazioni effettuate e una indennità di trasferta da un minimo di 5 euro a un massimo di 15 euro per ogni ora o frazione per distanze inferiori a 100 Km.; nonché da un minimo di 3 euro a un massimo di 9 euro per ogni ora o frazione per distanze superiori a 100 Km.
Art. 7
Qualora più psicologi siano stati incaricati in collegio di prestare la loro opera nel medesimo intervento, a ciascuno spetta un compenso determinato dividendo per il numero dei membri del collegio medesimo l'onorario unico aumentato del 40% per ogni professionista incaricato, salvo per l’eventuale coordinatore per il quale si applica la tariffa piena.
A ciascuno spetta il rimborso delle spese giustificate e l'indennità.
Art. 8
Per gli interventi iniziati ma non giunti a compimento ovvero nel caso di cessazione dell'incarico per qualsiasi motivo saranno dovuti gli onorari per l'opera prestata, comprendendosi in questa il lavoro preparatorio compiuto dallo psicologo.
La sospensione per qualsiasi motivo dell'incarico dato allo psicologo non esime il cliente dall'obbligo di corrispondere l'onorario relativo alle prestazioni rese.
Art. 9
Qualora tra la prestazione e l'onorario previsto dalla tabella appaia, per particolari circostanze del caso, una manifesta sproporzione, possono, su conforme parere del competente Consiglio dell'Ordine, essere superati i minimi e i massimi tariffari rispettivamente della metà e sino alla decuplicazione.
Art. 10
Allo psicologo spetta un rimborso delle spese generali di studio in ragione del 10% sull’importo dell’onorario.
Art. 11
Per i giudizi arbitrali sono dovuti gli onorari stabiliti ai sensi e per gli effetti del D.M. 5 ottobre 1994 n. 585, e successive modificazioni e integrazioni.
DELLA TARIFFA PROFESSIONALE DEGLI PSICOLOGI
Approvato dal Consiglio Nazionale Ordine degli Psicologi in data 2 febbraio 2002
Art. 1
Per le prestazioni professionali, oltre al rimborso delle spese giustificate, sono dovuti allo psicologo iscritto alla sezione A dell’Albo, come stabilito dal D.P.R. 328/01, gli onorari indicati nell'allegata tabella.
Art. 2
Gli onorari minimi e massimi per le prestazioni professionali sono inderogabili.
Gli onorari minimi e massimi sono da intendersi annualmente adeguati sulla variazione del canone ISTAT minimo applicabile.
Nelle convenzioni con soggetti pubblici e privati, che hanno ad oggetto prestazioni professionali da rendere a beneficio di intere categorie di soggetti, il minimo può essere diminuito entro il 25%.
Art. 3
Per la determinazione dell'onorario fra il massimo e il minimo stabilito, si può avere riguardo a:
la complessità della prestazione richiesta;
l'appartenenza del cliente a categorie a beneficio delle quali sono state stipulate convenzioni;
l’urgenza della prestazione;
la situazione socio - economica del cliente.
Lo psicologo può ridurre l'onorario per le prestazioni non effettuate a causa del mancato rispetto dell'appuntamento da parte del cliente, ed eventualmente rinunciarvi se lo ritiene opportuno.
Art. 4
Gli onorari, a seconda delle modalità inerenti alla loro determinazione, sono distinti nei seguenti due tipi:
onorari a percentuale, in ragione del valore dell'intervento;
onorari a vacazione, in ragione del tempo impiegato.
Per la determinazione del valore dell'intervento, va tenuto conto degli interessi sostanziali sui quali incide la prestazione professionale.
Nella determinazione dell'onorario deve aversi particolare riguardo alla competenza specifica dello psicologo.
Quando gli onorari non possono essere determinati in virtù di una specifica voce della tabella, si fa riferimento alle disposizioni contenute nelle presenti norme e nella tabella allegata che regolano casi simili o materie analoghe.
Art. 5
Gli onorari dovuti allo psicologo per le prestazioni professionali non ricomprese nell’allegata tabella sono normalmente valutati a percentuale.
In ogni caso, gli onorari devono essere valutati in ragione del tempo e computati a vacazione in quelle prestazioni professionali nelle quali il tempo concorrere come elemento precipuo di valutazione.
Gli onorari a vacazione sono stabiliti per lo psicologo in ragione di 60 euro per ogni ora o frazione di ora.
Salvo casi di effettiva maggiore prestazione professionale, non si possono calcolare più di otto ore sulle ventiquattro.
Per le prestazioni rese in condizioni di particolare disagio, detti onorari possono essere aumentati fino al 40%.
Art. 6
Allo psicologo che per l'esecuzione dell'incarico ricevuto debba trasferirsi fuori studio sono dovute le spese di viaggio rimborsate nel loro ammontare maggiorato del 15% a titolo di rimborso delle spese accessorie; le spese di soggiorno, pernottamento e vitto in base alle tariffe di albergo di prima categoria con l'aumento del 10% a titolo di rimborso spese accessorie, nonché gli onorari relativi alle prestazioni effettuate e una indennità di trasferta da un minimo di 5 euro a un massimo di 15 euro per ogni ora o frazione per distanze inferiori a 100 Km.; nonché da un minimo di 3 euro a un massimo di 9 euro per ogni ora o frazione per distanze superiori a 100 Km.
Art. 7
Qualora più psicologi siano stati incaricati in collegio di prestare la loro opera nel medesimo intervento, a ciascuno spetta un compenso determinato dividendo per il numero dei membri del collegio medesimo l'onorario unico aumentato del 40% per ogni professionista incaricato, salvo per l’eventuale coordinatore per il quale si applica la tariffa piena.
A ciascuno spetta il rimborso delle spese giustificate e l'indennità.
Art. 8
Per gli interventi iniziati ma non giunti a compimento ovvero nel caso di cessazione dell'incarico per qualsiasi motivo saranno dovuti gli onorari per l'opera prestata, comprendendosi in questa il lavoro preparatorio compiuto dallo psicologo.
La sospensione per qualsiasi motivo dell'incarico dato allo psicologo non esime il cliente dall'obbligo di corrispondere l'onorario relativo alle prestazioni rese.
Art. 9
Qualora tra la prestazione e l'onorario previsto dalla tabella appaia, per particolari circostanze del caso, una manifesta sproporzione, possono, su conforme parere del competente Consiglio dell'Ordine, essere superati i minimi e i massimi tariffari rispettivamente della metà e sino alla decuplicazione.
Art. 10
Allo psicologo spetta un rimborso delle spese generali di studio in ragione del 10% sull’importo dell’onorario.
Art. 11
Per i giudizi arbitrali sono dovuti gli onorari stabiliti ai sensi e per gli effetti del D.M. 5 ottobre 1994 n. 585, e successive modificazioni e integrazioni.
THE SAN FRANCISCO CHRONICLE, January 29, 2003
[Editor's Note: When an illness strikes someone in the public eye, the
public gets to learn more about the illness. Below, Raiders fans are
taught about bipolar disorder, including from an insight supplied by Dr.
E. Fuller Torrey.]
By Carl T. Hall
Psychiatrists joined the Raider Nation on Tuesday in an effort to
understand the apparent medical meltdown of All-Pro center Barret
Robbins.
Robbins, 29, displayed signs of emotional problems and then disappeared
the day before the biggest game of his life on Sunday. Hospitalized in
San Diego, he was pulled from the Raiders' lineup before his teammates
endured a thrashing by the Tampa Bay Buccaneers.
He reportedly had stopped taking prescription medications for bipolar
disorder. Although medical experts all declined to comment on the
particulars of the Robbins case, they called it a classic scenario of
stress complicating a struggle with mental illness. "All illnesses are
exacerbated by stress, including bipolar disorder," said Dr. Robert
Hirschfeld, chair of psychiatry at the University of Texas Medical
Branch at Galveston, Texas.
Any event that pulls someone out of his "normal life rhythms" can
trigger new symptoms, Hirschfeld added, which in depressive disorders
often can include a tendency to make some very bad decisions.
"We hope people would be able to exercise some self-control," Hirschfeld
said. "Unfortunately, it's in the nature of this illness for people to
lose the ability to control themselves."
Bipolar disorder, or manic-depression, is marked by extreme mood swings.
Often mistaken for the more common condition of major depression,
bipolar afflicts an estimated 2 million people in the United States, or
about 1 percent of adults at some point in their lives.
The prevalence appears to be higher in high-achieving occupations,
including professional sports, because of the productivity, energy and
drive to excel that can be hallmarks of the condition's "up" phase.
Bipolar is considered incurable but can be managed effectively through
use of mood-stabilizing drugs such as lithium and divalproex (Depakote).
Many other drugs and treatment approaches also are being tried.
Few medical details have emerged in the Robbins case. Doctors said the
reported circumstances highlight the difficulties that arise even in
cases where a patient can afford top-notch treatment.
"The people who do very poorly are the people who don't get it, who
don't have a proper respect for the illness," said Dr. Terence Ketter,
chief of a bipolar-disorders clinic at Stanford University Medical
Center. "People who admit they have a problem and are willing to work on
it do a lot better."
One key component is a marked tendency to forget one's vulnerability
during the treatment phase. This denial may be ascribed to a personal
choice one makes, but many doctors view it as one more devilish way the
disease manifests itself.
"It can be a phase of the illness," Ketter said. "It's not just people
who are jerks, or just don't accept they have a problem. Unfortunately
some people have to have a few episodes before they realize this is
something they really have to deal with."
People with bipolar disorder often have remarkably little insight into
their illness, even if it's painfully obvious to everyone around them.
"It's part of the illness that they do not see they have an illness,"
Hirschfeld said.
Doctors described success-driven patients becoming convinced that
treatment side effects -- virtually insignificant to any outside
observer -- were robbing them of vitality when they needed it most.
To an offensive lineman, for instance, treatment could be seen as
costing the subtle edge that might make the difference between a clean
block and a fall on one's face in the Super Bowl.
Subtle side effects "that may be a nuisance to an ordinary individual
may be significant to a professional athlete," said Dr. Victor Reus, a
psychiatrist at UCSF Medical Center. "Artists, performers, highly
creative talented people of all kinds tend to very self-aware of subtle
variations in their performance."
Abrupt discontinuation of medication after a period of successful
treatment can be extremely risky, linked in studies to particularly
violent mood swings, alcohol and drug use and erratic behavior. Suicide
is not uncommon.
"A lot of people have the idea that if they get off the medicine, they
do better," said Dr. Marc Graff, a bipolar-disorder specialist at Kaiser
Permanente in Los Angeles. "These are all world-class players. I am sure
the temptation to get that extra edge is always there."
Graff cited "VIP syndrome" as another possible culprit in the rarefied
world of professional sport.
"There are special rules for special people," Graff said. "Anyone who
gets into professional athletics certainly is a person, at least in our
culture, who is catered to and may become used to having things done for
him."
Such people tend to have "a flying V of hangers-on protecting them, and
so they don't often have to deal with the consequences of their actions.
And that can make treating a person's mental illness very difficult," he
said.
Understandably, perhaps, Robbins did not seem to be inspiring much
public sympathy after the Raiders' loss. After he failed to show up for
the Raiders' last practice and a team meeting Saturday, some of his
teammates clearly were angered by his apparent irresponsibility.
Physicians said some of the anger may be justified, but they also said
that the harsh judgments might be premature if there were, in fact,
underlying medical factors.
The physical roots of mood disorders are somewhat mysterious but are
thought to be related to the genetics of brain chemistry, giving rise to
imbalances in the biochemical crosstalk that allows neurons to
communicate with one another.
"We tend to put the burden on the person and don't understand these are
brain diseases," said Dr E. Fuller Torrey, executive director of the
Stanley Medical Research Institute in Bethesda, Md., and author of the
recent book "Surviving Manic Depression."
Even Robbins, at 6-foot-3 and 320 pounds, might have been ill-equipped
to shake the monkey off his back. [SOS Psiche]
[Editor's Note: When an illness strikes someone in the public eye, the
public gets to learn more about the illness. Below, Raiders fans are
taught about bipolar disorder, including from an insight supplied by Dr.
E. Fuller Torrey.]
By Carl T. Hall
Psychiatrists joined the Raider Nation on Tuesday in an effort to
understand the apparent medical meltdown of All-Pro center Barret
Robbins.
Robbins, 29, displayed signs of emotional problems and then disappeared
the day before the biggest game of his life on Sunday. Hospitalized in
San Diego, he was pulled from the Raiders' lineup before his teammates
endured a thrashing by the Tampa Bay Buccaneers.
He reportedly had stopped taking prescription medications for bipolar
disorder. Although medical experts all declined to comment on the
particulars of the Robbins case, they called it a classic scenario of
stress complicating a struggle with mental illness. "All illnesses are
exacerbated by stress, including bipolar disorder," said Dr. Robert
Hirschfeld, chair of psychiatry at the University of Texas Medical
Branch at Galveston, Texas.
Any event that pulls someone out of his "normal life rhythms" can
trigger new symptoms, Hirschfeld added, which in depressive disorders
often can include a tendency to make some very bad decisions.
"We hope people would be able to exercise some self-control," Hirschfeld
said. "Unfortunately, it's in the nature of this illness for people to
lose the ability to control themselves."
Bipolar disorder, or manic-depression, is marked by extreme mood swings.
Often mistaken for the more common condition of major depression,
bipolar afflicts an estimated 2 million people in the United States, or
about 1 percent of adults at some point in their lives.
The prevalence appears to be higher in high-achieving occupations,
including professional sports, because of the productivity, energy and
drive to excel that can be hallmarks of the condition's "up" phase.
Bipolar is considered incurable but can be managed effectively through
use of mood-stabilizing drugs such as lithium and divalproex (Depakote).
Many other drugs and treatment approaches also are being tried.
Few medical details have emerged in the Robbins case. Doctors said the
reported circumstances highlight the difficulties that arise even in
cases where a patient can afford top-notch treatment.
"The people who do very poorly are the people who don't get it, who
don't have a proper respect for the illness," said Dr. Terence Ketter,
chief of a bipolar-disorders clinic at Stanford University Medical
Center. "People who admit they have a problem and are willing to work on
it do a lot better."
One key component is a marked tendency to forget one's vulnerability
during the treatment phase. This denial may be ascribed to a personal
choice one makes, but many doctors view it as one more devilish way the
disease manifests itself.
"It can be a phase of the illness," Ketter said. "It's not just people
who are jerks, or just don't accept they have a problem. Unfortunately
some people have to have a few episodes before they realize this is
something they really have to deal with."
People with bipolar disorder often have remarkably little insight into
their illness, even if it's painfully obvious to everyone around them.
"It's part of the illness that they do not see they have an illness,"
Hirschfeld said.
Doctors described success-driven patients becoming convinced that
treatment side effects -- virtually insignificant to any outside
observer -- were robbing them of vitality when they needed it most.
To an offensive lineman, for instance, treatment could be seen as
costing the subtle edge that might make the difference between a clean
block and a fall on one's face in the Super Bowl.
Subtle side effects "that may be a nuisance to an ordinary individual
may be significant to a professional athlete," said Dr. Victor Reus, a
psychiatrist at UCSF Medical Center. "Artists, performers, highly
creative talented people of all kinds tend to very self-aware of subtle
variations in their performance."
Abrupt discontinuation of medication after a period of successful
treatment can be extremely risky, linked in studies to particularly
violent mood swings, alcohol and drug use and erratic behavior. Suicide
is not uncommon.
"A lot of people have the idea that if they get off the medicine, they
do better," said Dr. Marc Graff, a bipolar-disorder specialist at Kaiser
Permanente in Los Angeles. "These are all world-class players. I am sure
the temptation to get that extra edge is always there."
Graff cited "VIP syndrome" as another possible culprit in the rarefied
world of professional sport.
"There are special rules for special people," Graff said. "Anyone who
gets into professional athletics certainly is a person, at least in our
culture, who is catered to and may become used to having things done for
him."
Such people tend to have "a flying V of hangers-on protecting them, and
so they don't often have to deal with the consequences of their actions.
And that can make treating a person's mental illness very difficult," he
said.
Understandably, perhaps, Robbins did not seem to be inspiring much
public sympathy after the Raiders' loss. After he failed to show up for
the Raiders' last practice and a team meeting Saturday, some of his
teammates clearly were angered by his apparent irresponsibility.
Physicians said some of the anger may be justified, but they also said
that the harsh judgments might be premature if there were, in fact,
underlying medical factors.
The physical roots of mood disorders are somewhat mysterious but are
thought to be related to the genetics of brain chemistry, giving rise to
imbalances in the biochemical crosstalk that allows neurons to
communicate with one another.
"We tend to put the burden on the person and don't understand these are
brain diseases," said Dr E. Fuller Torrey, executive director of the
Stanley Medical Research Institute in Bethesda, Md., and author of the
recent book "Surviving Manic Depression."
Even Robbins, at 6-foot-3 and 320 pounds, might have been ill-equipped
to shake the monkey off his back. [SOS Psiche]
10 febbraio 2003
Gli effetti degli antidepressivi sul cervello
Alterazioni nelle attività cerebrali si manifestano dopo sole due settimane
Grazie alle moderne tecnologie, che consentono di ottenere immagini delle aree del cervello al lavoro, gli scienziati stanno finalmente comprendendo il meccanismo con cui i farmaci antidepressivi agiscono sulle strutture cerebrali. Ricercatori dell'Università del Wisconsin di Madison hanno usato immagini di risonanza magnetica funzionale (fMRI) per osservare i cambiamenti che avvengono nel cervello durante il trattamento con antidepressivi, mentre i pazienti sperimentano emozioni positive e negative.
Lo studio, apparso sulla rivista "American Journal of Psychiatry" (gennaio 2003), è stato condotto da Richard Davidson, docente di psicologia, da Ned Kalin del dipartimento di psichiatria e da due collaboratori. Gli scienziati hanno scoperto che, somministrando venlafaxina a un piccolo gruppo di pazienti clinicamente depressi, il farmaco produceva forti alterazioni nel cingolato anteriore. Si tratta dell'area del cervello che ha a che fare con la focalizzazione dell'attenzione e che inoltre si attiva quando si affronta un conflitto. Il cambiamento è stato osservato dopo sole due settimane, mentre di solito non si verificano cambiamenti d'umore prima di tre-cinque settimane. [CognitiList]
Alterazioni nelle attività cerebrali si manifestano dopo sole due settimane
Grazie alle moderne tecnologie, che consentono di ottenere immagini delle aree del cervello al lavoro, gli scienziati stanno finalmente comprendendo il meccanismo con cui i farmaci antidepressivi agiscono sulle strutture cerebrali. Ricercatori dell'Università del Wisconsin di Madison hanno usato immagini di risonanza magnetica funzionale (fMRI) per osservare i cambiamenti che avvengono nel cervello durante il trattamento con antidepressivi, mentre i pazienti sperimentano emozioni positive e negative.
Lo studio, apparso sulla rivista "American Journal of Psychiatry" (gennaio 2003), è stato condotto da Richard Davidson, docente di psicologia, da Ned Kalin del dipartimento di psichiatria e da due collaboratori. Gli scienziati hanno scoperto che, somministrando venlafaxina a un piccolo gruppo di pazienti clinicamente depressi, il farmaco produceva forti alterazioni nel cingolato anteriore. Si tratta dell'area del cervello che ha a che fare con la focalizzazione dell'attenzione e che inoltre si attiva quando si affronta un conflitto. Il cambiamento è stato osservato dopo sole due settimane, mentre di solito non si verificano cambiamenti d'umore prima di tre-cinque settimane. [CognitiList]
Journal of Trauma and Dissociation
The Journal is free for regular and student members of the ISSD.
The Journal can be purchased from Haworth Medical Press.
Contents:
Volume 1 (2000): Number 1, Number 2, Number 3, Number 4
Volume 2 (2001): Number 1, Number 2, Number 3, Number 4
Volume 3 (2002): Number 1, Number 2
Volume 1 (2000), Number 1:
Presidential Editorial: Within These Pages...
- John Curtis, MD, FRCP(C)
Editorial: Trauma and Dissociation: 20 Years of Study and Lessons Learned Along the Way
- James A. Chu, MD, Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD
Israeli Mental Health Professionals' Attitudes Towards Dissociative Disorders, Reported Incidence and Alternative Diagnoses Considered
- Eli Somer, PhD
Some Characteristics of Positive and Negative ("Most Traumatic") Event Memories in a College Sample
- Lisa D. Butler, PhD, Amy L. Wolfner, BS
Utilizing Religious Resources in the Treatment of Dissociative Trauma Symptoms: Rationale, Current Status, and Future Directions
- Christopher H. Rosik, PhD
Dissociation and Schizophrenia: A Case Report
- Adekola O. Alao, MD, MRCPshych, Christine Tyrrell, MA, Jennifer C. Yolles, MD, Wendy Armenta, MD
Book Review: Creating Confusion
"Creating Hysteria" by Joan Acocella
- Reviewed by Joyanna Silberg, PhD
Book Rewiew: When the Legal Tail Wags the Metaphysical Dog
"Divided Minds and Successive Selves - Ethical Issues in Disorders of Identity and Personality" by Jennifer Radden
- Reviewed by J. A. O'Neil, MD, FRCPC
Book Review: A Retractor's Account
"Making of an Illness: My Experience with Multiple Personality Disorder" by Gail Macdonald
- Reviewed by Philip M. Coons, MD
Guidelines for Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) in Adults (1997)
Introduction
- Peter M. Barach, PhD
Guidelines for Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) in Adults (1997)
- The International Society for the Study of Dissociation
Volume 1 (2000), Number 2:
Editorial: Trauma - A Fourth Paradigm for the Third Millennium
- Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD, James A. Chu, MD
Dissociation and Latent Abilities: The Strange Case of Patience Worth
- Stephen E. Braude, PhD
Commentary on Braude's "Dissociation and Latent Abilities: The Strange Case of Patience Worth"
- Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Commentary on Braude's "Dissociation and Latent Abilities: The Strange Case of Patience Worth"
- Jennifer Radden, PhD
Incorporating EMDR and EMDR Adaptations into the Treatment of Clients with Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Joanne H. Twombly, MSW, LICSW
Can the Different Cerebral Hemispheres Have Distinct Personalities? Evidence and Its Implications for Theory and Treatment of PTSD and Other Disorders
- Fredric Schiffer, MD
Book Review: "Falling Backwards: An Exploration of Trust & Self-Experience" by Doris Brothers
- Reviewed by Nancy Kobrin
Book Review: "Ego States: Theory and Therapy" by John and Helen Watkins
- Reviewed by Maggie Phillips
Volume 1 (2000), Number 3:
Editorial: The Integration of Science and Practice: A Direction for the Field of Trauma and Dissociation
- David H. Gleaves, PhD
A Qualitative Study of the Effect of a History of Childhood Sexual Abuse on Therapists Who Treat Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- May Benatar, PhD
The Language of Sexual Abuse: An Exploratory Lexical Analysis
- Stanley D. Rosenberg, PhD, Timothy L. Hulsey, PhD, Harriet J. Rosenberg, MA
Measuring Dissociative Experiences in a College Population: A study of Convergent and Discriminant Validity
- David H. Gleaves, PhD, Tara L. Williams, MS, Kim Harrison, BA, Michelle B. Cororve, BA
Screening for Trauma-Related Sleep Disturbance in Women Admitted for Specialized Inpatient Treatment
- Jon G. Allen, PhD, David A. Console, MD, John R. Brethour, Jr., MS, Janis Huntoon, PhD, Jim Fultz, PhD, April B. Stein, PhD
Depressive Symptoms and Sleep Disturbance in Adults with Histories of Childhood Abuse
- James A. Chu, PhD, Diana L. Dill, EdD, Donna E. Murphy, MA
Book Review: Measuring Somatoform Dissociation
"Somatoform Dissociation: Phenomena, Measurement, and Theoretical Issues" by Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis
- Reviewed by Louis W. Tinnin, MD
Book Review: Enormous Advance in Patient Education for Dissociative Disorders
"The Stranger in the Mirror: Dissociation - The Hidden Epidemic of Our Time" by Marlene Steinberg and Maxine Schnall
- Reviewed by Philip M. Coons, MD
Guidelines for the Evaluation and Treatment of Dissociative Symptoms in Children and Adolescents
Introduction
- Joyanna Silberg, PhD
Guidelines for the Evaluation and Treatment of Dissociative Symptoms in Children and Adolescents
- ISSD Task Force on Children and Adolescents, July, 2000
Volume 1 (2000), Number 4:
Embodied Sorrow: A Special Issue on Somatoform Dissociation
- Etzel Cardena, PhD, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis, PhD
Somatoform Dissociation: Major Symptoms of Dissociative Disorders
- Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis, PhD
Somatoform Dissociation in Traumatized World War I Combat Soldiers: A Neglected Clinical Heritage
- Onnon van der Hart, PhD, Annemieke van Dijke, MA, Maarten van Son, PhD, Kathy Steele, RN, MS, CS
Differentiating Dissociative Disorders from Other Diagnostic Groups Through Somatoform Dissociation in Turkey
- Vedat Sar, MD, Turgut Kundakci, MD, Emre Kiziltan, MD, Bahadir Bakim, MD, Oya Bozkurt, MD
Somatoform Dissociation, Psychological Dissociation, and Specific Forms of Trauma
- Glenn Waller, DPhil, Kate Hamilton, MSc, Peter Elliott, MSc, Jane Lewendon, MSc, Lusia Stopa, DPhil, Anne Waters, DClinPsychol, Fiona Kennedy, DClinPsychol, Gary Lee, DClinPsychol, Dave Pearson, DClinPsychol, Helen Kennerley, DPhil, Isabel Hargreaves, PhD, Vivia Bashford, DClinPsychol, Jack Chalkley, MPhil
Demographic and Seizure Variables, But Not Hypnotizability or Dissociation, Differentiated Psychogenic from Organic Seizures
- Richards Litwin, PhD, Etzel Cardena, PhD
Reviewers for Volume 1 of the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation
Volume 2 (2001), Number 1:
Editorial: A President's Perspective: The Human Face of the Diagnostic Controversy
- Joyanna L. Silberg, PhD
Why the Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Identity Disorder Should Be Changed
- Paul F. Dell, PhD
Commentary: The Doctor Doth Protest Too Much!
- Etzel Cardena, PhD
Commentary: On Changing the Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Philip M. Coons, MD
Commentary: Reclaiming Dissociative Diagnoses
- Frank W. Putnam, MD
Commentary: Reconstructing the Dissociative Disorders: For Whom the Dell Tolls
- David Spiegel, MD
Commentary: Updating Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Disorders: Learning from Scientific Advances
- Marlene Steinberg, MD
Reply to Commentaries: Should the Dissociative Disorders Field Choose Its Own Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Identity Disorder? Reply to Cardena, Coons, Putnam, Spiegel, and Steinberg
- Paul F. Dell, PhD
Ten-Year Follow-Up Study of Patients with Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Philip M. Coons, MD, Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD
Acute Dissociative Reactions in Veterans with PTSD
- Cheryl Kooperman, PhD, Kent Drescher, PhD, Stephen Bowles, PhD, Fred Gusman, MSW, Dudley Blake, PhD, Harvey Dondershine, MD, Vickie Chang, BA, Lisa D. Butler, PhD, David Spiegel, MD
Book Review: "Neuroscience: The Foundations of Human and Animal Emotions" by Jan Panskeep
- Reviewed by Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Book Review: "The Wounded Body: Remembering the Markings of Flesh" by Dennis Patric Slattery
- Reviewed by Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Book Review: "Western Rationality and the Angel of Dreams - Self, Psyche, Dreaming" by Murray L. Wax
- Reviewed by John A. O'Neil, MD, FRCPC
Volume 2 (2001), Number 2:
Editorial: A Decline in the Abuse of Children?
- James A. Chu, MD
HMPAO SPECT Study of Regional Cerebral Blood Flow in Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Vedat Sar, MD, Seher N, Unal, MD, Emre Kiziltan, MD, Turgut Kundakci, MD, Erdinc Ozturk, MA
Dissociation and Sexual Trauma in Prostitutes: Variability of Responses
- Barry S. Cooper, MA, M. Alexis Kennedy, MA, John C. Yuille, PhD
Symptoms of Acute Stress Disorder and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Following Exposure to Disastrous Flooding
- Lynn C. Waelde, PhD, Cheryl Koopman, PhD, Jill Rierdan, PhD, David Spiegel, MD
Validation of the Hebrew Version of the Dissociative Experiences Scale (H-DES) in Israel
- Eli Somer, PhD, Michael Dolgin, PhD, Meir Saadon, PhD
Memory and Dissociative Tendencies: The Roles of Attentional Context and Word Meaning in a Directed Forgetting Task
- Anne P. DePrince, PhD, Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD
Acute Stabilization in an Inpatient Trauma Program
- Colin A. Ross, MD, Joan W. Ellason, MA, LPC
Book Review: "Being of Two Minds: The Vertical Split in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy" by Arnold Goldberg
- Reviewed by Richard A. Chefetz, MD
Book Review: "Standing in the Spaces: Essays on Clinical Process, Trauma, and Dissociation" by Philip M. Bromberg
- Reviewed by Elizabeth Howell, PhD
Book Review: "Fragment by Fragment: Feminist Perspectives on Memory and Child Sexual Abuse" by Margo Rivera
- Reviewed by Elizabeth Howell, PhD
Book Review: "Splintered Reflections: Images of the Body in Trauma" by Jean M. Goodwin and Reina Attias
- Reviewed by Dennis Patrick Slattery, PhD
Letter to the Editor: Comment on "Dissociation and Schizophrenia"
- Kenneth A. Nakdimen, MD
Letter to the Editor: Dr. Alao and Colleagues Reply
- Adekola O. Alano, MD, MRCPsych, Christine Tyrrell, MA, PhD, Jennifer C. Yolles, MD, Wendy Armenta, MD
Volume 2 (2001), Number 3:
Editorial: Maps, Mirrors, and Terra Incognita
- Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD
Self-Reported Memory of Abuse Depends Upon Victim-Perpetrator Relationship
- Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD, Anne P. DePrince, PhD, Eileen L. Zurbriggen, PhD
The Professional Fragmentation of Experience in the Study of Dissociation, Somatization, and Culture
- Amaro J. Laria, PhD, Roberto Lewis-Fernandez, MD
Peritraumatic Somatoform and Psychological Dissociation in Relation to Recall of Childhood Sexual Abuse
- Ellert Nijenhuis, PhD, Annegien van Engen, MA, Ine Kusters, MA, Onno van der Hart, PhD
The Development of the Somatoform Dissociation Index (SDI): A Screening Measure of Dissociation Using MMPI-2 Items
- Frank Leavitt, PhD
Relationship of the Dissociative Experiences Scale to Demographics, Symptomatology, and Coping Strategies in a New Zealand Student Sample
- Suzanne L. Barker-Collo, MA, PhD
On the Dimensionalities of the Dissociative Experiences Scale (DES) and the Dissociation Questionnaire (DIS-Q)
- Ira H. Bernstein, PhD, Joan Weathershee Ellason, MA, LPC, Colin A. Ross, MD, Johan Vanderlinden, PhD
Book Review: "Bluebird: Deliberate Creation of Multiple Personality by Psychiatrists" by Colin A. Ross
- Reviewed by Philip M. Coons, MD
Letter to the Editor: Comments on the Book Review of "Making an Illness"
- Gail Macdonald
Letter to the Editor: Dr. Coons Replies
- Philip M. Coons, MD
Volume 2 (2001), Number 4:
Editorial: The Challenges of Treatment: A Special Issue on Therapy
- Joyanna L. Silberg, PhD, Margo Rivera, PhD
Contextual Treatment of Dissociative Identity Disorder: Three Case Studies
- Steven N. Gold, PhD, Jon D. Elhai, PhD, Bayard D. Rea, MS, Donna Weiss, PsyD, Theodore Masino, MS, Staci Leon Morris, PsyD, Jessica McIninch, MS
Masochistic and Sadistic Ego States: Dissociative Solutions to the Dilemma of Attachment to an Abusive Caretaker
- Ruth A. Blizard, PhD
Factitious and Malingered Dissociative Identity Disorder: Clinical Features Observed in 18 Cases
- Ann Thomas, FRCPC
Dependency in the Treatment of Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and Dissociative Disorders
- Kathy Steele, MN, CS, Onno van der Hart, PhD, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis, PhD
Obsessive Compulsive Spectrum Disorders in Individuals with Dissociative Disorders
- Stephen H. McNevin, MD, FRCP(C), Margo Rivera, PhD
Establishing Safety with Patient with Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Bethany Brand, PhD
Book Review: "Not Trauma Alone: Therapy for Child Abuse Survivors in Family and Social Context" by Steven N. Gold
- Reviewed by Peter M. Barach, PhD
Reviewers for Volume 2 of the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation
Volume 3 (2002), Number 1:
Presidential Editorial: The View From Here: False Memories to the Right of Us, Exorcisms to Our Left... We're Staying the Course!
- A. Steven Frankel, PhD, JD
Prevalence, Reliability and Validity of Dissociative Disorders
- Colin A. Ross, MD, Colleen M. M. Duffy, PhD, Joan W. Ellason, MA, LPC
"The Reality of Repressed Memories" Revisited and Principles of Science
- Frank Leavitt, PhD
Reliability and Validity of the Turkish Version of the Child Dissociative Checklist
- Salih S. Zoroglu, MD, Umran Tuzun, MD, Mucahit Ozturk, MD, Vedat Sar, MD
Do Religious Mediumship Dissociative Experiences Conform to the Sociocognitive Theory or Dissociation?
- Paulo Jacomo Negro, Jr., MD, PhD, Paula Palladino-Negro, MD, Mario Rodrigues Louza, MD, PhD
EEG Coherence and Dissociative Identity Disorder: Comparing EEG Coherence in DID Hosts, Alters, Controls and Acted Alters
- Annedore Hopper, BAppSc, Joseph Ciorciari, BAppSc, PhD, Gillian Johnson, BAdvNur, John Spensley, MBBS, FRACP, Alex Sergejew, PhD, MBChB, Con Stough, PhD
Pathological Dissociative Taxon Membership, Absorption, and Reported Childhood Trauma in Women
- Jon G. Allen, PhD, Jim Fultz, PhD, Jamis Huntoon, PhD, John R. Brethour, Jr, MSEd
Book Review: "Body Scripture: A Therapist's Journal of Recovery from Multiple Personality" by Barbara Hope
- Reviewed by Jay Peters, MSW
Book Review: "A Psychoanalytic History of the Jews" by Avner Falk
Book Review: "Bloodlines: From Ethnic Pride to Ethnic Terrorism" by Vamik Volkan
Book Review: "The Colors of Violence: Cultural Identities, Religion, and Conflict" by Sudhir Kakar
Book Review: "The Ancestor Syndrome: Transgenerational Psychotherapy and the Hidden Links in the Family Tree" by Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger
- Reviewed by Nancy Hartevelt Kobrin, PhD
Volume 3 (2002), Number 2:
Editorial: "So We Don't Exist?": Dissociative Identity Disorder in the University Classroom
- Charles L. Proudfit, PhD, LCSW
Dissociation in Britain During the Late Nineteenth Century: The Society for Psychical Research, 1882 - 1900
- Carlos S. Alvarado, PhD
Combat-Induced Dissociative Amnesia: Review and Case Example of Generalized Dissociative Amnesia
- Eliezer Witztum, MD, Haim Margalit, PhD, Onno van der Hart, PhD
Using Psychomotor to Treat Dissociative Identity Disorder
- John Crandell, PhD, Rebecca Morrison, MA, Kathryn Willis, MEd
Psychotherapy of an Adolescent with Dissociative Identity Disorder: Change in Rorschach Patterns
- Vedat Sar, MD, Erdinc Ozturk, MA, Turgut Kundakci, MD
Client Satisfaction Survey of Inpatient Trauma and Dissociative Disorders Program
- Mark J. Dougherty, MSW
Participation in War-Zone Atrocities and Trait Dissociation Among Vietnam Veterans with Combat-Related Posttraumatic Stress Disorder
- Jack A. Schapiro, PsyD, Shirley M Glynn, PhD, David W. Foy, PhD, Christian Yavorsky, MA
Book Review: "Women Living with Self-Injury" by Jane Wegscheider Hyman
- Reviewed by Su Baker, MEd
Book Review: "Unformulated Experience: From Dissociation to Imagination in Psychoanalysis" by Donnel Stern
- Reviewed by Richard A. Chefetz, MD
Book Review: "Trauma & Evil" by H. Jeffrey Means
- Reviewed by Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Book Review: "Trance Zero: Breaking the Spell of Conformity" by Adam Crabtree
- Reviewed by Susan Oke, BSc, OT
Letter to the Editor
- Ruth A. Blizard, PhD
The International Society for the Study of Dissociation
60 Revere Dr., Suite 500
Northbrook, IL 60062
Telephone: 847/480-0899 Fax: 847/480-9282
E-mail: issd@issd.org
The Journal is free for regular and student members of the ISSD.
The Journal can be purchased from Haworth Medical Press.
Contents:
Volume 1 (2000): Number 1, Number 2, Number 3, Number 4
Volume 2 (2001): Number 1, Number 2, Number 3, Number 4
Volume 3 (2002): Number 1, Number 2
Volume 1 (2000), Number 1:
Presidential Editorial: Within These Pages...
- John Curtis, MD, FRCP(C)
Editorial: Trauma and Dissociation: 20 Years of Study and Lessons Learned Along the Way
- James A. Chu, MD, Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD
Israeli Mental Health Professionals' Attitudes Towards Dissociative Disorders, Reported Incidence and Alternative Diagnoses Considered
- Eli Somer, PhD
Some Characteristics of Positive and Negative ("Most Traumatic") Event Memories in a College Sample
- Lisa D. Butler, PhD, Amy L. Wolfner, BS
Utilizing Religious Resources in the Treatment of Dissociative Trauma Symptoms: Rationale, Current Status, and Future Directions
- Christopher H. Rosik, PhD
Dissociation and Schizophrenia: A Case Report
- Adekola O. Alao, MD, MRCPshych, Christine Tyrrell, MA, Jennifer C. Yolles, MD, Wendy Armenta, MD
Book Review: Creating Confusion
"Creating Hysteria" by Joan Acocella
- Reviewed by Joyanna Silberg, PhD
Book Rewiew: When the Legal Tail Wags the Metaphysical Dog
"Divided Minds and Successive Selves - Ethical Issues in Disorders of Identity and Personality" by Jennifer Radden
- Reviewed by J. A. O'Neil, MD, FRCPC
Book Review: A Retractor's Account
"Making of an Illness: My Experience with Multiple Personality Disorder" by Gail Macdonald
- Reviewed by Philip M. Coons, MD
Guidelines for Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) in Adults (1997)
Introduction
- Peter M. Barach, PhD
Guidelines for Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) in Adults (1997)
- The International Society for the Study of Dissociation
Volume 1 (2000), Number 2:
Editorial: Trauma - A Fourth Paradigm for the Third Millennium
- Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD, James A. Chu, MD
Dissociation and Latent Abilities: The Strange Case of Patience Worth
- Stephen E. Braude, PhD
Commentary on Braude's "Dissociation and Latent Abilities: The Strange Case of Patience Worth"
- Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Commentary on Braude's "Dissociation and Latent Abilities: The Strange Case of Patience Worth"
- Jennifer Radden, PhD
Incorporating EMDR and EMDR Adaptations into the Treatment of Clients with Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Joanne H. Twombly, MSW, LICSW
Can the Different Cerebral Hemispheres Have Distinct Personalities? Evidence and Its Implications for Theory and Treatment of PTSD and Other Disorders
- Fredric Schiffer, MD
Book Review: "Falling Backwards: An Exploration of Trust & Self-Experience" by Doris Brothers
- Reviewed by Nancy Kobrin
Book Review: "Ego States: Theory and Therapy" by John and Helen Watkins
- Reviewed by Maggie Phillips
Volume 1 (2000), Number 3:
Editorial: The Integration of Science and Practice: A Direction for the Field of Trauma and Dissociation
- David H. Gleaves, PhD
A Qualitative Study of the Effect of a History of Childhood Sexual Abuse on Therapists Who Treat Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- May Benatar, PhD
The Language of Sexual Abuse: An Exploratory Lexical Analysis
- Stanley D. Rosenberg, PhD, Timothy L. Hulsey, PhD, Harriet J. Rosenberg, MA
Measuring Dissociative Experiences in a College Population: A study of Convergent and Discriminant Validity
- David H. Gleaves, PhD, Tara L. Williams, MS, Kim Harrison, BA, Michelle B. Cororve, BA
Screening for Trauma-Related Sleep Disturbance in Women Admitted for Specialized Inpatient Treatment
- Jon G. Allen, PhD, David A. Console, MD, John R. Brethour, Jr., MS, Janis Huntoon, PhD, Jim Fultz, PhD, April B. Stein, PhD
Depressive Symptoms and Sleep Disturbance in Adults with Histories of Childhood Abuse
- James A. Chu, PhD, Diana L. Dill, EdD, Donna E. Murphy, MA
Book Review: Measuring Somatoform Dissociation
"Somatoform Dissociation: Phenomena, Measurement, and Theoretical Issues" by Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis
- Reviewed by Louis W. Tinnin, MD
Book Review: Enormous Advance in Patient Education for Dissociative Disorders
"The Stranger in the Mirror: Dissociation - The Hidden Epidemic of Our Time" by Marlene Steinberg and Maxine Schnall
- Reviewed by Philip M. Coons, MD
Guidelines for the Evaluation and Treatment of Dissociative Symptoms in Children and Adolescents
Introduction
- Joyanna Silberg, PhD
Guidelines for the Evaluation and Treatment of Dissociative Symptoms in Children and Adolescents
- ISSD Task Force on Children and Adolescents, July, 2000
Volume 1 (2000), Number 4:
Embodied Sorrow: A Special Issue on Somatoform Dissociation
- Etzel Cardena, PhD, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis, PhD
Somatoform Dissociation: Major Symptoms of Dissociative Disorders
- Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis, PhD
Somatoform Dissociation in Traumatized World War I Combat Soldiers: A Neglected Clinical Heritage
- Onnon van der Hart, PhD, Annemieke van Dijke, MA, Maarten van Son, PhD, Kathy Steele, RN, MS, CS
Differentiating Dissociative Disorders from Other Diagnostic Groups Through Somatoform Dissociation in Turkey
- Vedat Sar, MD, Turgut Kundakci, MD, Emre Kiziltan, MD, Bahadir Bakim, MD, Oya Bozkurt, MD
Somatoform Dissociation, Psychological Dissociation, and Specific Forms of Trauma
- Glenn Waller, DPhil, Kate Hamilton, MSc, Peter Elliott, MSc, Jane Lewendon, MSc, Lusia Stopa, DPhil, Anne Waters, DClinPsychol, Fiona Kennedy, DClinPsychol, Gary Lee, DClinPsychol, Dave Pearson, DClinPsychol, Helen Kennerley, DPhil, Isabel Hargreaves, PhD, Vivia Bashford, DClinPsychol, Jack Chalkley, MPhil
Demographic and Seizure Variables, But Not Hypnotizability or Dissociation, Differentiated Psychogenic from Organic Seizures
- Richards Litwin, PhD, Etzel Cardena, PhD
Reviewers for Volume 1 of the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation
Volume 2 (2001), Number 1:
Editorial: A President's Perspective: The Human Face of the Diagnostic Controversy
- Joyanna L. Silberg, PhD
Why the Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Identity Disorder Should Be Changed
- Paul F. Dell, PhD
Commentary: The Doctor Doth Protest Too Much!
- Etzel Cardena, PhD
Commentary: On Changing the Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Philip M. Coons, MD
Commentary: Reclaiming Dissociative Diagnoses
- Frank W. Putnam, MD
Commentary: Reconstructing the Dissociative Disorders: For Whom the Dell Tolls
- David Spiegel, MD
Commentary: Updating Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Disorders: Learning from Scientific Advances
- Marlene Steinberg, MD
Reply to Commentaries: Should the Dissociative Disorders Field Choose Its Own Diagnostic Criteria for Dissociative Identity Disorder? Reply to Cardena, Coons, Putnam, Spiegel, and Steinberg
- Paul F. Dell, PhD
Ten-Year Follow-Up Study of Patients with Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Philip M. Coons, MD, Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD
Acute Dissociative Reactions in Veterans with PTSD
- Cheryl Kooperman, PhD, Kent Drescher, PhD, Stephen Bowles, PhD, Fred Gusman, MSW, Dudley Blake, PhD, Harvey Dondershine, MD, Vickie Chang, BA, Lisa D. Butler, PhD, David Spiegel, MD
Book Review: "Neuroscience: The Foundations of Human and Animal Emotions" by Jan Panskeep
- Reviewed by Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Book Review: "The Wounded Body: Remembering the Markings of Flesh" by Dennis Patric Slattery
- Reviewed by Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Book Review: "Western Rationality and the Angel of Dreams - Self, Psyche, Dreaming" by Murray L. Wax
- Reviewed by John A. O'Neil, MD, FRCPC
Volume 2 (2001), Number 2:
Editorial: A Decline in the Abuse of Children?
- James A. Chu, MD
HMPAO SPECT Study of Regional Cerebral Blood Flow in Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Vedat Sar, MD, Seher N, Unal, MD, Emre Kiziltan, MD, Turgut Kundakci, MD, Erdinc Ozturk, MA
Dissociation and Sexual Trauma in Prostitutes: Variability of Responses
- Barry S. Cooper, MA, M. Alexis Kennedy, MA, John C. Yuille, PhD
Symptoms of Acute Stress Disorder and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Following Exposure to Disastrous Flooding
- Lynn C. Waelde, PhD, Cheryl Koopman, PhD, Jill Rierdan, PhD, David Spiegel, MD
Validation of the Hebrew Version of the Dissociative Experiences Scale (H-DES) in Israel
- Eli Somer, PhD, Michael Dolgin, PhD, Meir Saadon, PhD
Memory and Dissociative Tendencies: The Roles of Attentional Context and Word Meaning in a Directed Forgetting Task
- Anne P. DePrince, PhD, Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD
Acute Stabilization in an Inpatient Trauma Program
- Colin A. Ross, MD, Joan W. Ellason, MA, LPC
Book Review: "Being of Two Minds: The Vertical Split in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy" by Arnold Goldberg
- Reviewed by Richard A. Chefetz, MD
Book Review: "Standing in the Spaces: Essays on Clinical Process, Trauma, and Dissociation" by Philip M. Bromberg
- Reviewed by Elizabeth Howell, PhD
Book Review: "Fragment by Fragment: Feminist Perspectives on Memory and Child Sexual Abuse" by Margo Rivera
- Reviewed by Elizabeth Howell, PhD
Book Review: "Splintered Reflections: Images of the Body in Trauma" by Jean M. Goodwin and Reina Attias
- Reviewed by Dennis Patrick Slattery, PhD
Letter to the Editor: Comment on "Dissociation and Schizophrenia"
- Kenneth A. Nakdimen, MD
Letter to the Editor: Dr. Alao and Colleagues Reply
- Adekola O. Alano, MD, MRCPsych, Christine Tyrrell, MA, PhD, Jennifer C. Yolles, MD, Wendy Armenta, MD
Volume 2 (2001), Number 3:
Editorial: Maps, Mirrors, and Terra Incognita
- Elizabeth S. Bowman, MD
Self-Reported Memory of Abuse Depends Upon Victim-Perpetrator Relationship
- Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD, Anne P. DePrince, PhD, Eileen L. Zurbriggen, PhD
The Professional Fragmentation of Experience in the Study of Dissociation, Somatization, and Culture
- Amaro J. Laria, PhD, Roberto Lewis-Fernandez, MD
Peritraumatic Somatoform and Psychological Dissociation in Relation to Recall of Childhood Sexual Abuse
- Ellert Nijenhuis, PhD, Annegien van Engen, MA, Ine Kusters, MA, Onno van der Hart, PhD
The Development of the Somatoform Dissociation Index (SDI): A Screening Measure of Dissociation Using MMPI-2 Items
- Frank Leavitt, PhD
Relationship of the Dissociative Experiences Scale to Demographics, Symptomatology, and Coping Strategies in a New Zealand Student Sample
- Suzanne L. Barker-Collo, MA, PhD
On the Dimensionalities of the Dissociative Experiences Scale (DES) and the Dissociation Questionnaire (DIS-Q)
- Ira H. Bernstein, PhD, Joan Weathershee Ellason, MA, LPC, Colin A. Ross, MD, Johan Vanderlinden, PhD
Book Review: "Bluebird: Deliberate Creation of Multiple Personality by Psychiatrists" by Colin A. Ross
- Reviewed by Philip M. Coons, MD
Letter to the Editor: Comments on the Book Review of "Making an Illness"
- Gail Macdonald
Letter to the Editor: Dr. Coons Replies
- Philip M. Coons, MD
Volume 2 (2001), Number 4:
Editorial: The Challenges of Treatment: A Special Issue on Therapy
- Joyanna L. Silberg, PhD, Margo Rivera, PhD
Contextual Treatment of Dissociative Identity Disorder: Three Case Studies
- Steven N. Gold, PhD, Jon D. Elhai, PhD, Bayard D. Rea, MS, Donna Weiss, PsyD, Theodore Masino, MS, Staci Leon Morris, PsyD, Jessica McIninch, MS
Masochistic and Sadistic Ego States: Dissociative Solutions to the Dilemma of Attachment to an Abusive Caretaker
- Ruth A. Blizard, PhD
Factitious and Malingered Dissociative Identity Disorder: Clinical Features Observed in 18 Cases
- Ann Thomas, FRCPC
Dependency in the Treatment of Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and Dissociative Disorders
- Kathy Steele, MN, CS, Onno van der Hart, PhD, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis, PhD
Obsessive Compulsive Spectrum Disorders in Individuals with Dissociative Disorders
- Stephen H. McNevin, MD, FRCP(C), Margo Rivera, PhD
Establishing Safety with Patient with Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Bethany Brand, PhD
Book Review: "Not Trauma Alone: Therapy for Child Abuse Survivors in Family and Social Context" by Steven N. Gold
- Reviewed by Peter M. Barach, PhD
Reviewers for Volume 2 of the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation
Volume 3 (2002), Number 1:
Presidential Editorial: The View From Here: False Memories to the Right of Us, Exorcisms to Our Left... We're Staying the Course!
- A. Steven Frankel, PhD, JD
Prevalence, Reliability and Validity of Dissociative Disorders
- Colin A. Ross, MD, Colleen M. M. Duffy, PhD, Joan W. Ellason, MA, LPC
"The Reality of Repressed Memories" Revisited and Principles of Science
- Frank Leavitt, PhD
Reliability and Validity of the Turkish Version of the Child Dissociative Checklist
- Salih S. Zoroglu, MD, Umran Tuzun, MD, Mucahit Ozturk, MD, Vedat Sar, MD
Do Religious Mediumship Dissociative Experiences Conform to the Sociocognitive Theory or Dissociation?
- Paulo Jacomo Negro, Jr., MD, PhD, Paula Palladino-Negro, MD, Mario Rodrigues Louza, MD, PhD
EEG Coherence and Dissociative Identity Disorder: Comparing EEG Coherence in DID Hosts, Alters, Controls and Acted Alters
- Annedore Hopper, BAppSc, Joseph Ciorciari, BAppSc, PhD, Gillian Johnson, BAdvNur, John Spensley, MBBS, FRACP, Alex Sergejew, PhD, MBChB, Con Stough, PhD
Pathological Dissociative Taxon Membership, Absorption, and Reported Childhood Trauma in Women
- Jon G. Allen, PhD, Jim Fultz, PhD, Jamis Huntoon, PhD, John R. Brethour, Jr, MSEd
Book Review: "Body Scripture: A Therapist's Journal of Recovery from Multiple Personality" by Barbara Hope
- Reviewed by Jay Peters, MSW
Book Review: "A Psychoanalytic History of the Jews" by Avner Falk
Book Review: "Bloodlines: From Ethnic Pride to Ethnic Terrorism" by Vamik Volkan
Book Review: "The Colors of Violence: Cultural Identities, Religion, and Conflict" by Sudhir Kakar
Book Review: "The Ancestor Syndrome: Transgenerational Psychotherapy and the Hidden Links in the Family Tree" by Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger
- Reviewed by Nancy Hartevelt Kobrin, PhD
Volume 3 (2002), Number 2:
Editorial: "So We Don't Exist?": Dissociative Identity Disorder in the University Classroom
- Charles L. Proudfit, PhD, LCSW
Dissociation in Britain During the Late Nineteenth Century: The Society for Psychical Research, 1882 - 1900
- Carlos S. Alvarado, PhD
Combat-Induced Dissociative Amnesia: Review and Case Example of Generalized Dissociative Amnesia
- Eliezer Witztum, MD, Haim Margalit, PhD, Onno van der Hart, PhD
Using Psychomotor to Treat Dissociative Identity Disorder
- John Crandell, PhD, Rebecca Morrison, MA, Kathryn Willis, MEd
Psychotherapy of an Adolescent with Dissociative Identity Disorder: Change in Rorschach Patterns
- Vedat Sar, MD, Erdinc Ozturk, MA, Turgut Kundakci, MD
Client Satisfaction Survey of Inpatient Trauma and Dissociative Disorders Program
- Mark J. Dougherty, MSW
Participation in War-Zone Atrocities and Trait Dissociation Among Vietnam Veterans with Combat-Related Posttraumatic Stress Disorder
- Jack A. Schapiro, PsyD, Shirley M Glynn, PhD, David W. Foy, PhD, Christian Yavorsky, MA
Book Review: "Women Living with Self-Injury" by Jane Wegscheider Hyman
- Reviewed by Su Baker, MEd
Book Review: "Unformulated Experience: From Dissociation to Imagination in Psychoanalysis" by Donnel Stern
- Reviewed by Richard A. Chefetz, MD
Book Review: "Trauma & Evil" by H. Jeffrey Means
- Reviewed by Jean Goodwin, MD, MPH
Book Review: "Trance Zero: Breaking the Spell of Conformity" by Adam Crabtree
- Reviewed by Susan Oke, BSc, OT
Letter to the Editor
- Ruth A. Blizard, PhD
The International Society for the Study of Dissociation
60 Revere Dr., Suite 500
Northbrook, IL 60062
Telephone: 847/480-0899 Fax: 847/480-9282
E-mail: issd@issd.org
7 febbraio 2003
Ricerca commissionata dal DAP allo psichiatra V.Andreoli
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Hanno in media 41 anni, sono quasi tutti uomini (1.195 contro 87 donne) per lo più celibi (900 contro 125 coniugati), hanno un basso livello di istruzione e quasi la metà si è resa colpevole di un omicidio. In media rimangono internati per tre anni e oltre l'80% dei casi sono affetti da psicosi gravi, come la schizofrenia. Ma vi è anche un 20% che è ricoverato per reati minori. Sono i dati contenuti nella ricerca di “Anatomia degli ospedali psichiatrici giudiziari italiani”. La ricerca, prodotta nel 2002 dall'ufficio studi e ricerche del Dipartimento dell'amministrazione penitenziaria (Dap), è stata curata e presentata dallo psichiatra Vittorino Andreoli. Alla presentazione del volume, ieri, è dedicata una giornata di studio aperta a psichiatri ei giuristi, incentrata anche sulla prospettiva di riforma degli Opg, che prevede il trasferimento delle competenze dalla medicina penitenziaria al servizio sanitario nazionale dopo una fase di sperimentazione in sei regioni. Al 12 marzo 2001, data di rilevamento, risultavano 1.282 i pazienti ricoverati nei sei Opg italiani (Montelupo Fiorentino, Castiglione delle Stiviere, Barcellona Pozzo di Gotto, Napoli, Aversa, Reggio Emilia). Dal 1950 al 2000 le persone assistite negli Opg sono passate da 1.925 a 1.156. Gli Opg - è stato sottolineato nel corso della presentazione del volume - sono gli unici «manicomi» sopravvissuti alla riforma della legge Basaglia (legge 180) che nel 1978 ha chiuso gli ospedali psichiatrici ordinari. Essi dipendono dal ministero della Giustizia e non da quello della Salute. «Dalla mia esperienza - ha detto Andreoli - ho potuto verificare che la psichiatria non ha bisogno di manicomi e che è possibile, attraverso strutture operative e psichiatri motivati che anche la legge 180 funziona. Certo costa di più, ma questo non può essere un limite». Andreoli ha quindi avanzato una sua proposta: pensare, ha spiegato, a piccole strutture diffuse sul territorio, a base regionale o interregionale, in rapporto con i servizi psichiatrici territoriali, intese anche come luoghi di studio del comportamento criminale. «In sostanza - ha aggiunto lo psichiatra - anche senza una nuova legge si potrebbe pensare ad un ordinamento più valido per affrontare il problema degli opg». Per il Dap - ha detto Giovanni Tinebra, capo dipartimento dell'amministrazione penitenziaria - «sarà una delle priorità occuparsi del problema degli Opg. Ho chiesto formalmente - ha proseguito - ai direttori degli Opg italiani di costituire una sorta di tavolo permanente in cui dibattere e da cui far partire soggetti e segnali. C'è l'impegno - ha concluso - di tutto il Dap ad operarsi per rendere gli Opg più vivibili, più aperti al trattamento della terapia e più improntati alla sicurezza interna ed esterna». La ricerca ha analizzato in particolare chi sono le persone ricoverate negli ospedali psichiatrici giudiziari italiani, quale la diagnosi clinica, quale la tipologia della pericolosità sociale.
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Hanno in media 41 anni, sono quasi tutti uomini (1.195 contro 87 donne) per lo più celibi (900 contro 125 coniugati), hanno un basso livello di istruzione e quasi la metà si è resa colpevole di un omicidio. In media rimangono internati per tre anni e oltre l'80% dei casi sono affetti da psicosi gravi, come la schizofrenia. Ma vi è anche un 20% che è ricoverato per reati minori. Sono i dati contenuti nella ricerca di “Anatomia degli ospedali psichiatrici giudiziari italiani”. La ricerca, prodotta nel 2002 dall'ufficio studi e ricerche del Dipartimento dell'amministrazione penitenziaria (Dap), è stata curata e presentata dallo psichiatra Vittorino Andreoli. Alla presentazione del volume, ieri, è dedicata una giornata di studio aperta a psichiatri ei giuristi, incentrata anche sulla prospettiva di riforma degli Opg, che prevede il trasferimento delle competenze dalla medicina penitenziaria al servizio sanitario nazionale dopo una fase di sperimentazione in sei regioni. Al 12 marzo 2001, data di rilevamento, risultavano 1.282 i pazienti ricoverati nei sei Opg italiani (Montelupo Fiorentino, Castiglione delle Stiviere, Barcellona Pozzo di Gotto, Napoli, Aversa, Reggio Emilia). Dal 1950 al 2000 le persone assistite negli Opg sono passate da 1.925 a 1.156. Gli Opg - è stato sottolineato nel corso della presentazione del volume - sono gli unici «manicomi» sopravvissuti alla riforma della legge Basaglia (legge 180) che nel 1978 ha chiuso gli ospedali psichiatrici ordinari. Essi dipendono dal ministero della Giustizia e non da quello della Salute. «Dalla mia esperienza - ha detto Andreoli - ho potuto verificare che la psichiatria non ha bisogno di manicomi e che è possibile, attraverso strutture operative e psichiatri motivati che anche la legge 180 funziona. Certo costa di più, ma questo non può essere un limite». Andreoli ha quindi avanzato una sua proposta: pensare, ha spiegato, a piccole strutture diffuse sul territorio, a base regionale o interregionale, in rapporto con i servizi psichiatrici territoriali, intese anche come luoghi di studio del comportamento criminale. «In sostanza - ha aggiunto lo psichiatra - anche senza una nuova legge si potrebbe pensare ad un ordinamento più valido per affrontare il problema degli opg». Per il Dap - ha detto Giovanni Tinebra, capo dipartimento dell'amministrazione penitenziaria - «sarà una delle priorità occuparsi del problema degli Opg. Ho chiesto formalmente - ha proseguito - ai direttori degli Opg italiani di costituire una sorta di tavolo permanente in cui dibattere e da cui far partire soggetti e segnali. C'è l'impegno - ha concluso - di tutto il Dap ad operarsi per rendere gli Opg più vivibili, più aperti al trattamento della terapia e più improntati alla sicurezza interna ed esterna». La ricerca ha analizzato in particolare chi sono le persone ricoverate negli ospedali psichiatrici giudiziari italiani, quale la diagnosi clinica, quale la tipologia della pericolosità sociale.
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 1:
"100 Ways To Love Your Mate"
by Connie Saindon, MA
This list is designed to be a quick check for
you to review. Use it to give you ideas to
maintain your relationship, to give it a
positive boost or to select a holiday gift. Some
couples have also used it as a request list.
They have circled what they would like to have
and asked their partner to do the same. Feel
free to add to the list and use it again and
again. Enjoy!
1. Hug them.
2. Write a love note.
3. Call them at work just to say "Hi."
4. Give them a foot massage.
5. Tell them a joke.
6. Caress them with slow gentle strokes.
7. Go for a walk with them.
8. Send them a "happy gram."
9. Admit your mistakes.
10. Say: "I love you."
11. Indulge a whim.
12. Listen to them talk about an interest of
theirs.
13. Be trustworthy.
14. Instead of complaining, tell them what you
would prefer.
15. Look at them when you're in a discussion.
16. Send flowers.
17. Compliment something they did.
18. Offer to help.
19. Ask them to show you how to do something.
20. Call when you are going to be late.
21. Take them out to dinner.
22. Write them a poem about how special they are.
23. Cut out a cartoon they'll enjoy.
24. Ask them what they'd like sexually.
25. Go shopping together.
26. Take an afternoon drive.
27. Cuddle.
28. Put your arm around them in front of others.
29. Take them out on a surprise date.
30. Do something they want to do.
31. Listen.
32. Plan a candle light dinner.
33. Look at old photos together.
34. Serve them breakfast in bed.
35. Hold hands.
36. Share sexual fantasies.
37. Do a work project together.
38. Rub their back.
39. Take a shower together.
40. Carry their photo in your wallet.
41. Go away together for a weekend holiday.
42. Kiss them.
43. Smile more when you look at them.
44. Go for a bicycle ride together.
45. Surprise them with "special" attire.
46. Plan a picnic lunch.
47. Read something together about how to have a
better relationship.
48. Repeat what they say before answering.
49. Say "Good morning" first.
50. Ask if they have a few minutes first before
interrupting.
51. Send them a card.
52. Surprise them with a gift when it's a
non-holiday.
53. Cook them a favorite meal.
54. Try a new restaurant.
55. Ask them how they feel.
56. Let them know when you are proud of them.
57. Ask for their opinion.
58. Turn on some romantic music.
59. Dedicate a song to them.
60. Send them a balloon bouquet.
61. Watch a sunset together.
62. Play a game together.
63. Have them teach you something they know.
64. Tell them they have the night off.
65. Go to a movie they select.
66. Ask them for a hug.
67. Wear some new cologne.
68. Take them to Bali.
69. Discuss future plans with them.
70. Ask if you can help when they look sad.
71. Ask them about their dreams.
72. Meet them for lunch.
73. Enlarge a scenic photo of a place you've
shared.
74. Give them a gift certificate for their
favorite store.
75. Tell them what you like about them.
76. Buy them a new perfume.
77. Take them to a scenic spot.
78. Send them a gourmet gift basket.
79. Send them a joke card.
80. Let them know when you've thought of them
during the day.
81. Buy them a toy.
82. Compliment them to their friends.
83. Bring them a thirst quenching drink.
84. Tell them when they look attractive.
85. Send them a post card.
86. Invite them to a secret rendezvous.
87. Give them a massage.
88. Take a lesson with them.
89. Look at photos together of when you met.
90. Plan a vacation with them.
91. Listen openly to their opposing opinion.
92. Buy them a new piece of jewelry.
93. Watch a TV show they like with them
94. Write them a letter.
95. Listen to music with them, such as an old
favorite.
96. Whisper sweet nothings in their ear.
97. Tell them what you like that they do.
98. Give a head massage.
99. Invite them to a concert.
100. Let them know you care.
Connie Saindon, M.A., MFT, CTS is a licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified
Trauma Specialist. She serves on the board of the
local chapter of the Association for Traumatic
Stress Specialists and is a Continuing Education
provider. She is a volunteer with the San Diego
Police Departments' Crisis Intervention Team and
their Sexual Assault Prevention Program. She is a
trained Disaster Mental Health Responder with the
Red Cross and is Certified to conduct
Debriefings. She has been appointed chair of the
Community Response Committee for the California
Division of the American Association for Marriage
and Family Therapists. To contact her for
services and consultation, She can be reached at
7850 Mission Center Court, Suite 208, San Diego,
CA 92108. Her phone number is (619)295-8595.
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 2:
"Good Sex is Good For You!"
by Anthony Fiore, Ph.D.
"Life without love is like a coconut in which
the milk is dried up." Henry David Thoreau
"Good sex....Improves our health and may even
contribute to our longevity."
Scientific evidence is accumulating support what
many of us have suspected all along: good sex
not only adds great enjoyment to our lives, but
it also actually improves our health and may
even contribute to our longevity.
In a new book called Sexual Healing, Dr. Paul
Pearsall, Director of Behavioral Medicine at
Detroit's Beaumont Hospital, writes that the
joys and pleasures of living life and loving may
provide us with something called an "intimacy
inoculation" that actually protects us from
disease.
Dr. Pearsall, who cites numerous other
researchers, concludes, "Growing numbers of
physicians now recognize that the health of the
human heart depends not only on such factors as
genetics, diet, and exercise, but also -- to a
large extent -- on the social and emotional
health of the individual."
Sexual healing is achieved primarily through the
daily challenge of maintaining a close, intimate
relationship which, when accomplished, leads to
balance between our health and healing systems.
Can lack of sexual intimacy create a risk factor
for certain diseases? Dr. Pearsall cites
research and his own clinical experience
indicating that sexual dissatisfaction seems to
be prevalent prior to a heart attack in a high
percentage of persons. Conversely, sexual
contentment appears related to less severe
migraine headaches, fewer and less-severe
symptoms of premenstrual syndrome for women, and
a reduction in symptoms related to chronic
arthritis for both genders.
Although the exact biological mechanisms are not
yet identified, many researchers are
investigating how our thoughts, feelings, brain,
immune system and sexual/genital system
interact, influence each other, and affect our
health. There may be an actual biological drive
toward closeness, intimacy, and being connected
to other human beings.
When we experience intimate, mutually caring
sexual intimacy, we may experience a measurable
change in neurochemicals and hormones that pour
through the body and help promote health and
healing.
"Hormones that pour through the body help
promote health and healing."
Does this mean that to live longer or be more
healthy we just need to DO IT more often or
better? Of course not! Sex is a much broader
concept that genital connecting or having an
orgasm. Psychologist and author Gina Ogden,
Ph.D. notes in her book, Women Who Love Sex,
that sex has everything to do with openness,
connection to and bonding with a partner,
feelings about what is happening to us, and
memories. For those who love it, sex permeates
their lives and is not merely a specialized,
time-intensive, physical activity that takes
place under the covers -- as quickly as possible.
As a result of interviewing many women, Dr.
Ogden learned that sexual desire, or lust, was
produced by much more than physical stimulation.
For women, according to Dr.Ogden, it has more to
do with feelings of connectedness in their
relationships: "Heart to heart, soul to soul,
even mind to mind."
"For women, it has to do with feelings of
connectedness in their relationships."
When discussing sexual connecting, Dr. Ogden's
interviewees spoke of a FLOWING CONTINUUM OF
PLEASURE, ORGASM, AND ECSTASY, rather than a
one-time experience. They also described peak
sexual experiences as coming from stimulation
all over their bodies -- not just from their
genitals -- including fingers, toes, hips, lips,
neck, and earlobes.
Obviously, arousal and satisfaction evolve not
only from receiving sexual energy, but also from
the joy of stimulating one's partner. Sex, then,
is a commitment of give and take.
Finally, the women Dr. Ogden studied have their
own concepts of safe sex, essential to
experiencing sexual pleasure and ecstasy. This
kind of safe sex does NOT relate to preventing
STDs or pregnancy; it relates, instead, to
emotional and spiritual safety. Such safety is
CRUCIAL for sexual closeness. Most of the women
insisted that warm, loving connections with
themselves and with their partners were
essential to and inseparable from the experience
of sexual ecstasy.
When people feel deeply close while merely
holding hands, they are having sex. When people
display caring for each other through hugs,
caresses, and kissing, they are also having sex.
When connecting people in a crowded room wink at
each other in their own secret way, they are
communicating sex to each other; such
non-contact sex can be excitedly arousing and
emotionally fulfilling. And, of course, during
sexual union when the sky seems to open so a
lightning bolt can strike the couple -- while
fireworks ignite and the earth stops spinning--
this is sex, too.
But wait. Do men also need this almost spiritual
connection to enjoy sex and achieve good health?
Well, yes and no. Men need sex and men need
emotional connection, but many men don't
necessarily need to put the two together!
According to Dr. Bernie Zilbergelt, who wrote
The New Male Sexuality, sex for women is
intertwined with personal connection. For some
men , sex is unto itself -- an act to be engaged
in with or without love, with or without
commitment, with or without connection.
Presently, younger boys are being socialized in
a more enlightened manner; consequently, male
attitudes toward sexual union are changing.
But,unfortunately, the socialization of many men
born in or before the 60's provided very little
information of value to the formation and
maintenance of intimate relationships. These men
were taught, as youths, that males showed love
by doing, not by talking or "connecting" with
girls.
"Fortunately, anyone can...restore closeness,
intimacy, and sexual flow."
Older men were usually also socialized to be
strong and self-reliant, which usually means one
doesn't easily talk about or admit personal
problems. Many such men do not acknowledge
worries and fears to their partners; they simply
try to handle everything on their own.
A consequence of such reticence is (1) lack of
intimacy in the relationship, with the wife
feeling "left out" of her husband's life; and
(2) men often don't get what they need because
they don't know how to ask for it, so they feel
distanced and frustrated when they really want
closeness and intimacy as much as their partner
does.
Sex under these conditions creates distance in
the relationship or creates sexual dysfunction
which drives an even deeper wedge into the
relationship. This is especially true if a man
is married to a woman must be wanted by her
husband to have her sexuality validated.
Consequently, sex routinely becomes mechanical,
unfeeling, and unfulfilling. Fortunately, anyone
can break this vicious cycle and restore
closeness, intimacy, and sexual flow in the
relationship.
Author Anthony Fiore, Ph.D., is in private
practice, teaches sex therapy, and owns
September Products, a multimedia resource center
to enhance relationships and improve sexuality.
1450 N. Tustin Ave., Suite 200, Santa Ana, Ca.,
92701. Voice: 714-771-0378.
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SHM FEATURE Booklet # 1:
"Cyber-Dating Cyber-Safety On The Freeway Of Love"
by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.*
Part 1 Introduction to the Booklet
What can I do? My virtual lover told me to buzz
off, won't answer my mail, and has put my sexual
fantasies online for the world to see. HELP!!
I really want to meet my virtual lover in real
life. We're planning a meeting in Aspen in a
month. How do I know he's not an axe-murderer?
My friends tell me I'm crazy, but I've just got
to do it.
In the comfort of your home, door locked and
phone within reach, it may seem safe to meet
someone from the other side of the planet in a
dating chat room. Other people decide to leave
the relative safety of dating websites and
communicate in email with their newfound loves.
Yet others give their telephone numbers for the
heightened pleasure of hearing their lover's
voice, breaths, and sighs. Each of these steps
is movement away from anonymity, and as we
shall demonstrate in this article, movement
toward higher risk. We, therefore, do not
advocate your use or non-use of any of these
technologies, but rather want to help you
understand how to keep yourself safe.
Part 2 Is Virtual Romance for You?
Virtual romance is a general or generic term,
like cyber-relationships. It is what the person
wants it to be. Some people will consider
virtual romance to be an online relationship;
some will want it to be a cyber-sexual
relationship, and some will want it to develop
into an offline relationship.
We will emphasize some of the disappointments
and heartaches that can be experienced in cyber-
relationships, and if you choose to pursue such
a romance, we will point out some of the ways in
which you can protect yourself and your loved
ones.
Our SelfhelpMagazine respondents helped us
understand some of the pitfalls of virtual
romance.
Beth said, "Virtual romance can be dangerous if
not in moderation. I do not recommend virtual
romance to those with previous emotional
problems. My sister battles with depression
since she was a teenager. She got caught in an
affair that ripped her heart out and dropped her
into another depression. She's been in therapy
ever since."
Harry observed, "When reality sets in, you could
be alone. If you let yourself get too involved,
the person might not be around when you need to
talk."
Of course, there are many successful
relationships that start online.
Ricky tells us, "I met my best friend, and
eventually my lover online. At first we just
talked, but soon I found myself falling in love.
I never had any intention of meeting anyone
offline when I joined the chat, but I guess love
is unpredictable."
Many people separate their online world from
their offline world. Like Ricky, some people
never have the intention to carry their
relationships into the physical world. Dangers
may still lurk though, both emotionally and
physically. The next few sections will deal with
keeping you safe in the virtual world.
Part 3 Face-to-Face Meetings Are Not for Everyone
Some people may prefer to live in the fantasy of
the Internet. For them, virtual romance and
relationships are enough. While this group of
people has not been studied by researchers in
any specific detail, early reports are that
exclusively Internet-based relationships can be
whatever people make of them. The Internet is a
tool, and people make either good or bad choices
with it. Society may have reason to fear the
"underside" of the Internet, but it also has
reason to celebrate the increased safety
afforded for personal exploration.
Making mistakes is part of any exploration.
Whatever degree of contact with other people you
seek on the Internet, keep a journal for
yourself-keep track of what you are doing and
why. Like any good explorer, you may need to
retrace your steps if you get lost. The next
section deals with some common mistakes that can
be avoided on a personal level.
Read other parts of this booklet...
Part 4 Protecting Yourself
Part 5 Anonymity in Cyber Space
Part 6 Virtual Harassment
Part 7 Cyber-Safety
Part 8 Safety Tips for Online Relationships
Part 9 Before You Press Send
Part 10 The Face to Face Meeting
Part 11 Safety Tips for Face-to-Face Meetings
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 1:
"100 Ways To Love Your Mate"
by Connie Saindon, MA
This list is designed to be a quick check for
you to review. Use it to give you ideas to
maintain your relationship, to give it a
positive boost or to select a holiday gift. Some
couples have also used it as a request list.
They have circled what they would like to have
and asked their partner to do the same. Feel
free to add to the list and use it again and
again. Enjoy!
1. Hug them.
2. Write a love note.
3. Call them at work just to say "Hi."
4. Give them a foot massage.
5. Tell them a joke.
6. Caress them with slow gentle strokes.
7. Go for a walk with them.
8. Send them a "happy gram."
9. Admit your mistakes.
10. Say: "I love you."
11. Indulge a whim.
12. Listen to them talk about an interest of
theirs.
13. Be trustworthy.
14. Instead of complaining, tell them what you
would prefer.
15. Look at them when you're in a discussion.
16. Send flowers.
17. Compliment something they did.
18. Offer to help.
19. Ask them to show you how to do something.
20. Call when you are going to be late.
21. Take them out to dinner.
22. Write them a poem about how special they are.
23. Cut out a cartoon they'll enjoy.
24. Ask them what they'd like sexually.
25. Go shopping together.
26. Take an afternoon drive.
27. Cuddle.
28. Put your arm around them in front of others.
29. Take them out on a surprise date.
30. Do something they want to do.
31. Listen.
32. Plan a candle light dinner.
33. Look at old photos together.
34. Serve them breakfast in bed.
35. Hold hands.
36. Share sexual fantasies.
37. Do a work project together.
38. Rub their back.
39. Take a shower together.
40. Carry their photo in your wallet.
41. Go away together for a weekend holiday.
42. Kiss them.
43. Smile more when you look at them.
44. Go for a bicycle ride together.
45. Surprise them with "special" attire.
46. Plan a picnic lunch.
47. Read something together about how to have a
better relationship.
48. Repeat what they say before answering.
49. Say "Good morning" first.
50. Ask if they have a few minutes first before
interrupting.
51. Send them a card.
52. Surprise them with a gift when it's a
non-holiday.
53. Cook them a favorite meal.
54. Try a new restaurant.
55. Ask them how they feel.
56. Let them know when you are proud of them.
57. Ask for their opinion.
58. Turn on some romantic music.
59. Dedicate a song to them.
60. Send them a balloon bouquet.
61. Watch a sunset together.
62. Play a game together.
63. Have them teach you something they know.
64. Tell them they have the night off.
65. Go to a movie they select.
66. Ask them for a hug.
67. Wear some new cologne.
68. Take them to Bali.
69. Discuss future plans with them.
70. Ask if you can help when they look sad.
71. Ask them about their dreams.
72. Meet them for lunch.
73. Enlarge a scenic photo of a place you've
shared.
74. Give them a gift certificate for their
favorite store.
75. Tell them what you like about them.
76. Buy them a new perfume.
77. Take them to a scenic spot.
78. Send them a gourmet gift basket.
79. Send them a joke card.
80. Let them know when you've thought of them
during the day.
81. Buy them a toy.
82. Compliment them to their friends.
83. Bring them a thirst quenching drink.
84. Tell them when they look attractive.
85. Send them a post card.
86. Invite them to a secret rendezvous.
87. Give them a massage.
88. Take a lesson with them.
89. Look at photos together of when you met.
90. Plan a vacation with them.
91. Listen openly to their opposing opinion.
92. Buy them a new piece of jewelry.
93. Watch a TV show they like with them
94. Write them a letter.
95. Listen to music with them, such as an old
favorite.
96. Whisper sweet nothings in their ear.
97. Tell them what you like that they do.
98. Give a head massage.
99. Invite them to a concert.
100. Let them know you care.
Connie Saindon, M.A., MFT, CTS is a licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified
Trauma Specialist. She serves on the board of the
local chapter of the Association for Traumatic
Stress Specialists and is a Continuing Education
provider. She is a volunteer with the San Diego
Police Departments' Crisis Intervention Team and
their Sexual Assault Prevention Program. She is a
trained Disaster Mental Health Responder with the
Red Cross and is Certified to conduct
Debriefings. She has been appointed chair of the
Community Response Committee for the California
Division of the American Association for Marriage
and Family Therapists. To contact her for
services and consultation, She can be reached at
7850 Mission Center Court, Suite 208, San Diego,
CA 92108. Her phone number is (619)295-8595.
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SHM FEATURE ARTICLE # 2:
"Good Sex is Good For You!"
by Anthony Fiore, Ph.D.
"Life without love is like a coconut in which
the milk is dried up." Henry David Thoreau
"Good sex....Improves our health and may even
contribute to our longevity."
Scientific evidence is accumulating support what
many of us have suspected all along: good sex
not only adds great enjoyment to our lives, but
it also actually improves our health and may
even contribute to our longevity.
In a new book called Sexual Healing, Dr. Paul
Pearsall, Director of Behavioral Medicine at
Detroit's Beaumont Hospital, writes that the
joys and pleasures of living life and loving may
provide us with something called an "intimacy
inoculation" that actually protects us from
disease.
Dr. Pearsall, who cites numerous other
researchers, concludes, "Growing numbers of
physicians now recognize that the health of the
human heart depends not only on such factors as
genetics, diet, and exercise, but also -- to a
large extent -- on the social and emotional
health of the individual."
Sexual healing is achieved primarily through the
daily challenge of maintaining a close, intimate
relationship which, when accomplished, leads to
balance between our health and healing systems.
Can lack of sexual intimacy create a risk factor
for certain diseases? Dr. Pearsall cites
research and his own clinical experience
indicating that sexual dissatisfaction seems to
be prevalent prior to a heart attack in a high
percentage of persons. Conversely, sexual
contentment appears related to less severe
migraine headaches, fewer and less-severe
symptoms of premenstrual syndrome for women, and
a reduction in symptoms related to chronic
arthritis for both genders.
Although the exact biological mechanisms are not
yet identified, many researchers are
investigating how our thoughts, feelings, brain,
immune system and sexual/genital system
interact, influence each other, and affect our
health. There may be an actual biological drive
toward closeness, intimacy, and being connected
to other human beings.
When we experience intimate, mutually caring
sexual intimacy, we may experience a measurable
change in neurochemicals and hormones that pour
through the body and help promote health and
healing.
"Hormones that pour through the body help
promote health and healing."
Does this mean that to live longer or be more
healthy we just need to DO IT more often or
better? Of course not! Sex is a much broader
concept that genital connecting or having an
orgasm. Psychologist and author Gina Ogden,
Ph.D. notes in her book, Women Who Love Sex,
that sex has everything to do with openness,
connection to and bonding with a partner,
feelings about what is happening to us, and
memories. For those who love it, sex permeates
their lives and is not merely a specialized,
time-intensive, physical activity that takes
place under the covers -- as quickly as possible.
As a result of interviewing many women, Dr.
Ogden learned that sexual desire, or lust, was
produced by much more than physical stimulation.
For women, according to Dr.Ogden, it has more to
do with feelings of connectedness in their
relationships: "Heart to heart, soul to soul,
even mind to mind."
"For women, it has to do with feelings of
connectedness in their relationships."
When discussing sexual connecting, Dr. Ogden's
interviewees spoke of a FLOWING CONTINUUM OF
PLEASURE, ORGASM, AND ECSTASY, rather than a
one-time experience. They also described peak
sexual experiences as coming from stimulation
all over their bodies -- not just from their
genitals -- including fingers, toes, hips, lips,
neck, and earlobes.
Obviously, arousal and satisfaction evolve not
only from receiving sexual energy, but also from
the joy of stimulating one's partner. Sex, then,
is a commitment of give and take.
Finally, the women Dr. Ogden studied have their
own concepts of safe sex, essential to
experiencing sexual pleasure and ecstasy. This
kind of safe sex does NOT relate to preventing
STDs or pregnancy; it relates, instead, to
emotional and spiritual safety. Such safety is
CRUCIAL for sexual closeness. Most of the women
insisted that warm, loving connections with
themselves and with their partners were
essential to and inseparable from the experience
of sexual ecstasy.
When people feel deeply close while merely
holding hands, they are having sex. When people
display caring for each other through hugs,
caresses, and kissing, they are also having sex.
When connecting people in a crowded room wink at
each other in their own secret way, they are
communicating sex to each other; such
non-contact sex can be excitedly arousing and
emotionally fulfilling. And, of course, during
sexual union when the sky seems to open so a
lightning bolt can strike the couple -- while
fireworks ignite and the earth stops spinning--
this is sex, too.
But wait. Do men also need this almost spiritual
connection to enjoy sex and achieve good health?
Well, yes and no. Men need sex and men need
emotional connection, but many men don't
necessarily need to put the two together!
According to Dr. Bernie Zilbergelt, who wrote
The New Male Sexuality, sex for women is
intertwined with personal connection. For some
men , sex is unto itself -- an act to be engaged
in with or without love, with or without
commitment, with or without connection.
Presently, younger boys are being socialized in
a more enlightened manner; consequently, male
attitudes toward sexual union are changing.
But,unfortunately, the socialization of many men
born in or before the 60's provided very little
information of value to the formation and
maintenance of intimate relationships. These men
were taught, as youths, that males showed love
by doing, not by talking or "connecting" with
girls.
"Fortunately, anyone can...restore closeness,
intimacy, and sexual flow."
Older men were usually also socialized to be
strong and self-reliant, which usually means one
doesn't easily talk about or admit personal
problems. Many such men do not acknowledge
worries and fears to their partners; they simply
try to handle everything on their own.
A consequence of such reticence is (1) lack of
intimacy in the relationship, with the wife
feeling "left out" of her husband's life; and
(2) men often don't get what they need because
they don't know how to ask for it, so they feel
distanced and frustrated when they really want
closeness and intimacy as much as their partner
does.
Sex under these conditions creates distance in
the relationship or creates sexual dysfunction
which drives an even deeper wedge into the
relationship. This is especially true if a man
is married to a woman must be wanted by her
husband to have her sexuality validated.
Consequently, sex routinely becomes mechanical,
unfeeling, and unfulfilling. Fortunately, anyone
can break this vicious cycle and restore
closeness, intimacy, and sexual flow in the
relationship.
Author Anthony Fiore, Ph.D., is in private
practice, teaches sex therapy, and owns
September Products, a multimedia resource center
to enhance relationships and improve sexuality.
1450 N. Tustin Ave., Suite 200, Santa Ana, Ca.,
92701. Voice: 714-771-0378.
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SHM FEATURE Booklet # 1:
"Cyber-Dating Cyber-Safety On The Freeway Of Love"
by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.*
Part 1 Introduction to the Booklet
What can I do? My virtual lover told me to buzz
off, won't answer my mail, and has put my sexual
fantasies online for the world to see. HELP!!
I really want to meet my virtual lover in real
life. We're planning a meeting in Aspen in a
month. How do I know he's not an axe-murderer?
My friends tell me I'm crazy, but I've just got
to do it.
In the comfort of your home, door locked and
phone within reach, it may seem safe to meet
someone from the other side of the planet in a
dating chat room. Other people decide to leave
the relative safety of dating websites and
communicate in email with their newfound loves.
Yet others give their telephone numbers for the
heightened pleasure of hearing their lover's
voice, breaths, and sighs. Each of these steps
is movement away from anonymity, and as we
shall demonstrate in this article, movement
toward higher risk. We, therefore, do not
advocate your use or non-use of any of these
technologies, but rather want to help you
understand how to keep yourself safe.
Part 2 Is Virtual Romance for You?
Virtual romance is a general or generic term,
like cyber-relationships. It is what the person
wants it to be. Some people will consider
virtual romance to be an online relationship;
some will want it to be a cyber-sexual
relationship, and some will want it to develop
into an offline relationship.
We will emphasize some of the disappointments
and heartaches that can be experienced in cyber-
relationships, and if you choose to pursue such
a romance, we will point out some of the ways in
which you can protect yourself and your loved
ones.
Our SelfhelpMagazine respondents helped us
understand some of the pitfalls of virtual
romance.
Beth said, "Virtual romance can be dangerous if
not in moderation. I do not recommend virtual
romance to those with previous emotional
problems. My sister battles with depression
since she was a teenager. She got caught in an
affair that ripped her heart out and dropped her
into another depression. She's been in therapy
ever since."
Harry observed, "When reality sets in, you could
be alone. If you let yourself get too involved,
the person might not be around when you need to
talk."
Of course, there are many successful
relationships that start online.
Ricky tells us, "I met my best friend, and
eventually my lover online. At first we just
talked, but soon I found myself falling in love.
I never had any intention of meeting anyone
offline when I joined the chat, but I guess love
is unpredictable."
Many people separate their online world from
their offline world. Like Ricky, some people
never have the intention to carry their
relationships into the physical world. Dangers
may still lurk though, both emotionally and
physically. The next few sections will deal with
keeping you safe in the virtual world.
Part 3 Face-to-Face Meetings Are Not for Everyone
Some people may prefer to live in the fantasy of
the Internet. For them, virtual romance and
relationships are enough. While this group of
people has not been studied by researchers in
any specific detail, early reports are that
exclusively Internet-based relationships can be
whatever people make of them. The Internet is a
tool, and people make either good or bad choices
with it. Society may have reason to fear the
"underside" of the Internet, but it also has
reason to celebrate the increased safety
afforded for personal exploration.
Making mistakes is part of any exploration.
Whatever degree of contact with other people you
seek on the Internet, keep a journal for
yourself-keep track of what you are doing and
why. Like any good explorer, you may need to
retrace your steps if you get lost. The next
section deals with some common mistakes that can
be avoided on a personal level.
Read other parts of this booklet...
Part 4 Protecting Yourself
Part 5 Anonymity in Cyber Space
Part 6 Virtual Harassment
Part 7 Cyber-Safety
Part 8 Safety Tips for Online Relationships
Part 9 Before You Press Send
Part 10 The Face to Face Meeting
Part 11 Safety Tips for Face-to-Face Meetings
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